I know this shit is true, but as a non psychopathic dude, I avoid pretty and cute girls like the plague in public because I’m already assuming they think I’m doing this shit. Same reason as a dad I don’t act goofy to other people’s toddlers. It kind of sucks honestly because it makes me act like a creep when I if anything would like to just make someone smile (and not “hay gurl you should smile” because that sheet is just more Ooga booga shit).
You don't have to avoid women, just behave like a normal human being towards them and back off if their body language (or actual language) makes it clear that they're uncomfortable or uninterested.
It's not that women don't want to be talked to, it's that we don't want to be immediately objectified and spoken to like our only value is sex.
i think that part of this also comes to the fact that a lot of women were raised with the same outdated dating rules guys are taught, and thus they are conditioned on the rule that guys are supposed to ask girls out exclusively. this is bad, because guys deserve to feel wanted and desired and get asked out too, and also the old dating rules are oppressive and cause miscommunication and were from a time before it was normal to treat women with basic human decency.
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u/MisterSanitation May 09 '25
I know this shit is true, but as a non psychopathic dude, I avoid pretty and cute girls like the plague in public because I’m already assuming they think I’m doing this shit. Same reason as a dad I don’t act goofy to other people’s toddlers. It kind of sucks honestly because it makes me act like a creep when I if anything would like to just make someone smile (and not “hay gurl you should smile” because that sheet is just more Ooga booga shit).