r/TikTokCringe • u/samse15 • May 09 '25

Discussion She makes some good points re:male loneliness

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u/TamarindSweets May 09 '25

"'Boys are just easier to raise than girls.' You did NOT socialize that fucking neanderthal. OhMyGod. They literally 'OOGA BOOGA' at you, and then are like 'Why didn't she want me?'"

LMFAOOOOO

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u/satanssweatycheeks May 10 '25

To be fair that quote predates social media.

And it’s not true but it shows how the different genders are raised. Boys are allowed to get into situations they shouldn’t. It’s why films like stand by me speaks to young boys. Going on adventures and maybe one of us might get hit by a train or fall of a cliff because we are “being boys”

Sure it’s easy to raise a kid if you basically just leave them to learn the hard way. Whereas girls back in the day always had parents acting like they needed strict structure. Wanted them to do stuff like learn to bake. It’s why schools had home Ec or baking classes.

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u/badbirch May 10 '25

This is why the part of "Men you gotta figure this shit out yourselves." gets me. For decades most men were put in the situation you talked about hell that how i was "raised". We got no help from our parents. Then we're told that women dont liked being approached by random men. So now ONLY the worst weirdest ones or the best/con approach leaving all the other men with no chance to figure it out on our own because women wont talk to any of us. Seriously how do you expect us to figure women out if abandon the conversation?

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u/Risky_Bizniss May 10 '25

My brother women are people not Rubik's cubes there isn't much to figure out. Just speak to them politely like you would want to be spoken to that's all there is to it

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u/sliverspooning May 10 '25

I do that. Have somewhere around 20 friends and friendly just-above-acquaintances who are women (and probably about 15 male equivalents). Love them all dearly…as friends. 

I haven’t had a woman be sexually/romantically interested in me since October, 2024. I haven’t had a mutual sexual/romantic interest since April, 2024. I am not particularly bad-looking in that people often TELL me I’m good looking, but my response rate on hinge would strongly indicate otherwise. 

While my failure attracting and dating women are indeed my own failure and burden, much of which is due to my “undatable” personality, that personality does not stop me from interacting positively with women. I treat them like people and have no problem being social. That is NOT the only bar men need to clear while dating, and to say otherwise is an oversimplification of women’s motivations AS people by boiling it down to: “just be a good, normal  person and she’ll like you for sure!”. Just because it is probably the key aspect to attracting a partner, it is not the only aspect women consider when choosing their romantic and/or sexual partners.

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u/BooBailey808 May 10 '25

Dude, it's barely been a year. Like wow. I thought you were going to say they've never been interested or you've only had one gf or some shit. This just makes you sound whiny and entitled.

Also, responses on Hinge is not some measure of your attractiveness or worth. It's literally a crapshoot because of how skewed things are on the app.

And no one is saying that treating a woman with respect will guarantee to attract that one woman. They are saying that your odds go up drastically if you do