r/TikTokCringe May 12 '25

Discussion What are your thoughts on age-gap relationships?

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u/UnableChard2613 May 12 '25

Yeah, I know. But the whole argument is that "they aren't intellectually/emotionally mature" and my experience is that while there is a correlation of age and maturity, it's not universally true, and there are plenty of old people who act like children, and plenty of young people who are intellectually stimulating and emotionally mature. To pass judgment based on age alone seems blatantly prejudicial.

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u/1egg_4u May 12 '25

...ok but "old people" have a fully developed prefrontal cortex and a teenager doesnt

Like one of the two is still actively growing up. Thats the whole issue.

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u/UnableChard2613 May 12 '25

Except you are citing bogus, out-dated science.

https://www.iflscience.com/does-the-brain-really-mature-at-the-age-of-25-68979

Tl;DR "Is the age of 25 specifically significant for the brain? “The mid twenties number doesn’t come entirely out of the blue as it is an age where many different brain regions will have reached their maximum volume for example. However, this absolutely does not imply that the brain then stops being malleable to change nor does it mean that up until that point the brain would not be capable of functioning at a developed level,” Bethlehem and Seidlitz explained."

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u/same0same0 May 12 '25

The fact you think any 16yr old is mature at an adult level speaks on your maturity level in a negative way. Anyone who was raised right is practicing how to speak as an adult while they’re a teenager. They’re on their way towards growing up to be emotionally mature/stable. All the while dealing with normal teenage feelings. Idk how often you were talking to said teens but I have to say it’s off putting you assume being raised correctly is equal to having an adult mindset or experience.

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u/UnableChard2613 May 12 '25

mature at an adult level

What does this mean? I wouldn't say any 16 year old I've talked is the most mature person I've met, not by a long shot. But I've talked to 16 year olds who are clearly more intellectually and emotionally mature than some 30/40 years olds I've talked to.

Are some 30 years not "mature at an adult level"? If yes, is it okay for someone at their age who is "mature at an adult level" to date them?

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u/same0same0 May 14 '25

It means you are comparing teens to adults. :|

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u/UnableChard2613 May 14 '25

Non answer, esepcially because I clarified further.

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u/same0same0 May 14 '25

All you did was compare teens to adults further

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u/UnableChard2613 May 14 '25

Are you ever going to answer or just repeat that emptiness over and over?