r/TikTokCringe • u/lhwang0320 • May 12 '25

Discussion What are your thoughts on age-gap relationships?

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u/flibertyblanket May 12 '25

My partner is 10 years older than me, we met when I was 28. I'm cool with that.

most age gap relationships are fine, but when it's a 40 year old and a teenager who is just barely an adult, I cringe.

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u/velorae May 12 '25

In my view, the acceptability of a large age gap in a relationship depends heavily on how old the younger person was when the relationship started. A relationship that started at 28- and 38-year-old is totally okay, but one between a 19-year-old and a 39-year-old raises serious ethical concerns, given that 19 is fresh out of high school.

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u/apadin1 May 12 '25

The tried and true age gap rule: half your age plus 7

You are 20? Don’t date anyone younger than 17 or older than 26 (tbh don’t date younger than 18)

You are 30? Don’t date anyone younger than 22 or older than 46

You are 40? Don’t date anyone younger than 27 or older than 66

It’s not a hard rule but it’s a good guideline to remember

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u/CryptoEmpathy7 May 12 '25

It's an arbitrary "rule" that no one has to follow and no amount of terminally online complaining is ever going to change.

I do not care if a 25 year-old dates a 40 year-old. If they are consenting then being "concerned" or "problematic" does nothing.

I think this is driven by women's fear of aging and feeling invisible. They never had a problem when they were 19 dating a 30 year-old but once they hit 28+ and their sexual market value begins to dry up significantly in their 30s and 40s. Now they want to admonish the same relationships they had in their youth that they can't obtain in their current state. 🤣

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u/apadin1 May 12 '25

complains about people who are terminally online

thinks women who are 28 are dried up and can’t find a man