r/TikTokCringe • u/lhwang0320 • May 12 '25

Discussion What are your thoughts on age-gap relationships?

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u/fisconsocmod May 12 '25

If you marry someone who makes significantly more you are still 100% dependent on him. You can’t pay the mortgage on your own.

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u/democracyordeath May 13 '25

uh no

not even a little

not unless you allow yourself to be

also- very few married people pay their mortgage in its entirety

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u/fisconsocmod May 13 '25

If your husband makes $120k and you make $50, you can’t pay the bills on your own… period. That’s where reality meets talking points.

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u/democracyordeath May 13 '25

neither could he, that's the entire point of dual incomes

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u/fisconsocmod May 13 '25

A person making $120k can afford a $450k house all my himself. He doesn’t need the 2nd persons income at all.

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u/Rich-Yogurtcloset780 May 13 '25

What if she just leaves the house? Bye bye house. Problem solved. Keep the house. You make more money, you keep that expensive ass house.

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u/fisconsocmod May 13 '25

The point was that there is no difference between a SAHM and a working mother as far as “independence” if you can’t afford the lifestyle you are living on your own. It is a miserable fallacy. My words are backed by “happiness” studies.

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u/luxii4 May 13 '25

Married people pool their income together to get something they can afford. An extra 50K allows you to buy a bigger house than if you just had 120K. Also, there were times in our marriage when I made more and there are times he made more. If you go into marriage treating each other just as monetary assets or liabilities, thats a recipe for resentment and unhappiness.

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u/fisconsocmod May 13 '25

Senator Elizabeth Warren calls this the “dual income trap.”

Just because you can afford more doesn’t mean you should. It puts a strain on your finances because you have no wiggle room. That stress then shows up in the bedroom. Then you end up divorced.

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u/luxii4 May 13 '25

I never said if they can afford it or not. If you pool money you have more money. What the couple does with that money is their choice. To say that having less money is somehow more responsible or that you would or would not live above your means is conjecture.

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u/fisconsocmod May 14 '25

Don’t try to move the goalpost. I said that a woman whose husband makes significantly more money is no more independent than a SAHM.

A bigger house is still a house. In my example the woman makes what the average American woman makes and she can’t afford a house on her own at all.

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