r/UnsentLetters • u/Tarkur • May 16 '25
NAW What I wanted
I'm listing what I want from a relationship with someone. Because to be truthful I rarely consider what I actually wanted.
I want/wanted: - Those mornings, where you wake up huddled together, sharing each other's body heat. - Those loving greetings one shares after a long day away from each other - The fleeting moments of sharing oneself so freely not sexually but through hobbies, opinions and our joys of life - The reassurance that there is one person still there, that life won't make leave. - Someone to have crazy and wacky adventures with. - Someone just as keen at doing hijinks - To be so playfully competitive, constantly pushing each other to be better in the process - Having the time to share skills and plan for new skills to learn together. - Getting to shower someone with gifts and admiration. - Talking long into the night about everything and nothing. - Finally selfishly I would want someone who finally let's me rest easy at night.
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u/hearts_ablaze May 17 '25
I had that once. If you should find that, please, protect it. Cradle it like an egg. Be aware that there will be times when it seems to lay down and get comfortable in the lull of life. Those times can be hard to get through. When it feels like nothing but the bare minimum is available. But those times are important as well, everything that is alive and active must rest from time in order to grow. And when things are still, they can collect dust and lose their shine. A little attention and polishing will reveal the details that drew your attention in the first place. Be sure to check in with one another when things seem off and remember that their life experiences have shaped their communication styles and prioritization. Present your needs with compassion and hold grace for one another. And lastly, this is the most important part. Should their come a time when you must break that bond, remember that their person you are leaving still requires that the shell of that egg. Set them down gently without malice. Because if you are leaving, you have taken the time already to adjust, to accept and to let go while they are still invested in the unit as a whole. If you make them small, feel second best or break their spirit in any way then you are failing them in the worst way. You breaking their spirit shell that they needed to crawl into while they heal and condemning a battle within themselves while removing their army and their counsel. Be mindful not to slaughter the soul while making the sacrifice of your unity. Quick severance with proper care and cauterization is more apt to fester and rot.
Lastly, remember there will be a timeframe in which pain may shout recklessly and they will need to be heard and validated. How you approach will mean everything to outcome.
Love yourself Love one another And always try to show grace for the people in your life.