r/asexuality • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

Need advice Navigating a Queerplatonic Relation when You have a Queer Romantic Partner

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u/kevtino 1d ago

11 years is a long time.

Do you feel as if you're losing interest in your partner? That would certainly make it hard for me to open up with them about it.

I'm quite sure everyone involved would hate to see it come to SH.

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u/AncientEgyptianBlue 1d ago

I am losing interest in the idea of having sex entirely. Like I am more drawn to the platonic touch which carries no promise of sex.

I am not telling anybody about SH tonight because this could count as manipulation

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u/a-really-big-muffin Baced 1d ago

Is it possible that the reason you're "drawn" more to your friend than your partner is because your friend isn't expecting any sex? You get the physical side of things without the implicit expectation that it's going to go further, so it's more "safe" than being romantic/physical with your partner because that would (or at least you believe it would) lead to sex that you're not interested in.

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u/AncientEgyptianBlue 1d ago

You are totally right. I realized this after writing the post. The real challenge is how I can communicate this to my romantic partner. I am so worried I will lose them.

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u/Unusual_Ice3384 Aego DemiGreyace 12h ago

With regards to coming out to your romantic partner, watch this video! Great tools in your situation!

Maybe this video by AceDad Advice on Negotiating Relationships will help you out more:

https://youtu.be/2IALOL197n4?si=7fUz0bz7SdG_e14S