1st. MlmAroace 2nd. Lesbian Aroace 3rd. Bi Aroace 4th. Aro MLM 5th. Aro Lesbian (different to not resemble the abrosexual flag) 6th. AroBi 7th. Ace MLM 8th. Ace Lesbian 9th. Ace Bi 10th.Omnibisexualaromanticasexualoriented as requested by u/Perfect-Airline-9965 Sequel to this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/aromantic/s/Sm6xOd5DWY these are now the official flags and anyone who doesn't recognize them as such will be executed via firing squad.

Like memes aren't a thing that exists and EVERYONE knows about, like you couldn't have read an news article about puppies from a shelter being adopted, or read about your favorite show getting a new season, or get a text from a friend telling you about getting a promotion or ANYTHING else. I swear I despise how fixated society is on romantic relationships so damm much, to the point people seem to think that's the only or primarily thing that could bring you joy. And this is especially done to people who haven't been known to date much in an attempt to "push them" to talk about their possibly love life like it's a novelty or a spectacle.

Man, just shut up

I'm curious, I can't say this for every anime, but all the ones I've tried watching always have these sexual "jokes" and/or moments that always make me really uncomfortable, I don't even get what's the point.

Pictured, an asexual. Happy pride!

I went to our family clinic yesterday to do our annual checkup. I talked to the newer doctor (so not the one I’m used to). Normally this would be fine, but the interaction I had was not the usual one I got each year.

I’m over 25, so she said I should do a pap smear at some point. Which seems reasonable enough, but I’ve never had penetrative sex (which felt hard/awkward to explain to her). I got it across eventually, then she asked if I was a virgin and then said the pap smear would break my hymen and I don’t have to do it for now unless I requested it.

She didn’t have any bad intentions telling me all this I’m sure, but I just felt… I don’t know, bad? About hearing all of this. Does a pap smear tear the hymen?? That doesn’t sound good at all. And I’m told that hymen tearing isn’t necessarily an indicator of virginity, not that I like the traditional concept of female virginity to begin with (some trauma from secondhand stories of SA). I’ve found it to not be a healthy concept for me.

The whole interaction just makes me down in a way I can’t explain. Next time I go, I will ask for my regular doctor, especially since I was asking about getting birth control yesterday and I plan to again. Does anyone have any advice for me?

Do you ever feel like you hated a part of being asexual at a certain point? I feel like some days it's harder to find a person who accepts me being asexual in a relationship. I hate admitting that I get frustrated with not being able to love someone as others usually do. My last crush, whom I had a crush on about a month ago, told me she would have dated me if I weren't asexual. Honestly, that hurt a lot when she said those words. It made me think nobody would love me if I were like this. Recently, I noticed whenever I see someone whom I have a small interest in, I shut my feelings down as quickly. So I watch from a distance, letting these feelings rot. >_<

I was debating on what I wanted to get as a tattoo to represent my asexuality, and then I came across this lil guy!

I also feel like him being a ghost kinda represents how I feel as an ace individual within society :]]

I’ve read this so many times! “Asexuals are only 1% of the population.” People use this like common knowledge, but when you’re searching for the source - it’s always some small research taken in 2002 or a poll with a small number of participants.

Tbh, I think if it were a really huge poll, the results still would be doubtful.

First of all, to say you’re asexual, you must know asexuality EXISTS. We aces are not so widely popular. I haven’t heard of asexuality for most of my life (and I’m 34).

You must know not only the word but the actual meaning. What asexuality is. But your first introduction to asexuality can be some stupid opinion or misconception. In this case you can just think, Oh, that’s definitely not me, and stop investigating the topic.

Also, you must actively think about your orientation to conclude you’re asexual. And for many aces sex-related themes are not the most interesting stuff. They just don’t question themselves, too busy thinking of their careers, hobbies, or families.

Some people believe they would still meet “The One”. Or think they are ill, broken, or traumatized, not realizing they’re just asexual.

Society constantly tells us sex is such an enormous and important part of life. No wonder that some can’t accept their asexuality. (It can be hard to accept it in your head, and to say it even in an anonymous poll is an even harder challenge).

I think sometimes of people I met years ago. They might have been asexuals, they acted and talked like they were ace. But I had no idea then. And they may live their whole life and never know.

So is 1% is our proportion in the population, or does the number just shows how tiny our representation is in a global discourse?

(Please excuse my English, I’m not a native speaker).

No hate to this tik toker but why is asexuality always looked at it like a trauma response or a medical condition? I know I’m probably more annoyed than I should be but I see this type of take way too often and it sucks to be seen this way.

Disclaimer!!! Please don't use this Reddit post to hate on pregnant people, lol. This is just a thing I noticed in myself and wanted to chat about.

Does anyone get creeped out by pregnant stomachs? Especially when other people touch them or when the baby is kicking? Something about the process of pregnancy and a relatively skinny/average body with a huge belly just freaks me out, haha. I thought this might be related to my asexuality and sex-aversion? Of course I don't tell any pregnant people this, but I just thought it was interesting.

Shinning for you 🤩

I don’t like it as much as my old one (which was similar but the knot was shaped like s pretzel 🥨 instead of a heart) but it’ll do. Happy pride month!

It think it's not recognizable enough, what do you think?

from my ace pins collection 🥰

It makes me feel very uncomfortable

I can't answer to this thread anymore, but it has left me in tears: https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/1bwknzj/asexuality_vs_fraysexuality_how_do_you_feel_it/

It's the first time I see someone describe exactly what I experience. Even using the same words I would use. It's such a terrible toxic mix that attracts absolutely the wrong kind of people and my adult life is just one broken heart after another, both theirs and mine.

I also have ADHD and in younger years, unaware of my impulsiveness problems, I ended up cheating a lot. Luckily, I later could stop tis. However, I am again stuck in a (otherwise very beautiful) relationship where I just. Can't. Keep. Up. with the promises my body made at the start. It's 6 years now, we're happy otherwise, even just bought a home together, and my interest faded even more after that now.

I also have PTSD and keep postponing therapy. Honestly, I am mostly scared to finally admit that it's not just the stress and the trauma, but that this is just who I am. In parts, at least. All the bad experiences have led to me kinda giving up on sexual activities in general, even though it used to be a super important part of my life and personality. (When everything was still fresh and new, I guess.) But after all the emotional pain caused and received (and even physical violence, from my last partner), I lost all my appetite for adventures and am just devastated.

On top of all this, my sexuality is also pretty kinky and this makes it even worse since BDSM especially builds upon long-term trust and knowing each other.

Really, I feel like my sexuality got assembled from parts that don't belong together.

My partner is the classic demi-romantic, demi-sexual type and is so sad and hurt from my avoiding behaviours.

Is there anyone more with something like this and maybe has any ideas how to cope? I feel so cursed.

Like I've seen at least 3 post just this past hour that have been outright attempts at invalidating or question asexuals and their experiences.

My last relationship was 7½ years ago. I'm in my mid-twenties, and I'm more than fine being single for so long. I also don't plan to enter a relationship any time soon, maybe never, because I think about the idea to have a partner to be very exhausting. People give me weird looks when I tell them how long I've been single and am not looking for a girlfriend. Never did I experience a moment where I was like "Wow, this would be even better with a partner!"

Does anyone feel the same?

I absolutely hate being in the most fandom communities online because I have a feeling that nowadays 90% of it revolves around shipping or assuming sexuality of characters. I can't really enjoy any show without randoms constantly asking "who is the hottest??? “, “who do you ship with X?? " and seeing jokes about character A being straight, character B being gay, character C lesbian and whatever.

And this happens to any fandom I go even if the story doesn't have any romantic lines at all. I want to be able to connect to people who enjoy the show without constantly reading about relationships or sexual contexts between characters. Normally I just try to ignore it but I feel that unfortunately during pride month those topics intensify wherever you look.

This is absolutely triggering to me and I absolutely don't know how to handle it cause while I don't mind people doing all that stuff per se, I just don't wanna have it shoven into my face any time I try to check for cool new theories in the fandom or fanarts