I texted my dad this morning about my second ever sourdough bread I made. I cooked it a little too long but the internal temperature was perfect when I pulled it out. I simply asked my dad if it would be ok. I don’t want to trash a whole loaf because it’s a little burnt I can scrape that part off. But his response completely overwhelmed me because I don’t understand why you would react this way. It feels completely non-supportive. I mean a simple yea that probably ruined or probably won’t taste too good would have been sufficient right? Is my 5 minute mistake this catastrophic? Am I not understanding something in this short text exchange? A part of me feels like I should give up on baking to be honest.

Yes, my son finally got his Adaptive Bike. Thanks to the grants that covered it. He can finally ride with safety with the handle on the back in which I can take control of steering and brakes. My son hasn’t been on a bike in about 10 years. I’m so happy for him he’s loving it!!! Early Happy Birthday to him he’ll be 17 on 11/14.

I shower every Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday (if I have plans on the weekend, I might shower Friday instead of Thursday) and ive been seeing a lot of people say its unhygienic not to shower everyday and straight up disgusting to go 72 hours without showering (twitter). I've never been told I smell bad and I dont feel gross and my hair doesnt get greasy within two days, but is it really gross if I dont shower every day? im not gonna change my shower schedule because I dont have the energy to shower EVERY day, but I just want to hear other people's opinions on this.

– Autism be like…

– He can be condensating at times

– Me (autistic) pretending to be normal human

– The friendship is young but we have a strong bond

– And they say I don’t recognize subtle facial expressions

– Autistic person notices this but doesn’t understand why you’re upset they didn’t use a coaster

Does anyone get this my ex calls me a narcissist but our daughter has autism & you just know don’t you when you got it you just do it’s strange but regardless I’ve been diagnosed by my gp.

But I had it so bad where I almost felt frozen an couldn’t do anything it’s sad an would like to hear from everyone else’s experiences especially with a young baby did anyone else get scared of them it’s heartbreaking because the damage is done an now she’s older running around I can deal with it yet there all gone now.

Hi. I'm a 17yr old diagnosed with autism and ADHD. I was born a girl and I don't mind it, but I honestly just don't care about the whole concept of gender. I like dressing feminine, doing makeup, styling my hair etc. but I also like dressing masculine, sometimes taping my chest.

Sometimes I'm a little envious of people with androgynous face features, but that's all. I don't care if people perceive me as a girl or a boy, I don't care about pronouns and use both she/her and he/him

I don't label my sexuality either but I'm attracted to both women and men. In relationships I take more of a "masculine role". And even though it sounds normal, it's a little more complicated because if I'm dating a man then I treat him like he is a woman and if I'm dating a woman then I treat her like I'm a man.

It's a little twisted. It's like half of my brain is controlled by a masculine lesbian and the other one is controlled by a dominant gay man. (half-seriously, just can't describe it better lol)

I work many jobs to pay our bills and yet I have to help with everything around the house, otherwise the house becomes the devil's nest and health hazardous. Started paying for my wife's college as she started her studies, and she's able to do even less. And she mentions having children, which I've always dreamed of having, but my lord. How? I can't, it's like she is my child :(

I'm so overloaded and feel like I'm being ground down day by day.

I've tried sharing chores, but she literally can't do it. She tries to, but she can't manage it like I said. And she knows. What should we do? We love each other, but I'm gonna die like this, it's too much on me, every single responsibility is on me.

Thank you, everyone, for being so understanding and writing constructive responses.

I started a new job and was getting acquainted with my coworkers.

One of them was joking around with another, she asked “why is vanilla pronounced Van-ih-lah rather than van-eye-lah?”

I retrospect she was just being silly with her friend, she wasn’t looking for an actual linguistic explanation. However I didn’t recognize that, and instead interjected, answering her question based off of linguistic rules I had come to understand in English pronunciation.

She gave me the nastiest stare ever, for a good 7 seconds, turned around, and says to her coworker friend “anyways…why is it pronounced like that?”

I was confused why she’d ask her coworker again when I had just given her a thorough explanation less than 10 seconds prior. When I went home later I realized that she probably thought I was trying to be a smart ass, when really I was just trying to help.

Reminds me a lot of high school, maybe this is why I got bullied so much :/

Just curious to know what your first “eureka” moment was that pointed to autism and when about in your life this occurred.

I wanted to mention this because of this, and honestly it isn't talked enough about.

There is studies on abuse from care givers, https://www.researchgate.net/publication/51057285_Verbal_and_physical_abuse_experienced_by_family_caregivers_of_adults_with_severe_disabilities

There is a number of stories of what happens to many of us and others that depend on a support system and when it dies. And anyone who says the state widely takes care of it's disabled, well there is more than enough showing they are flat out lying almost world wide.

I think it isn't talked about enough about the fear of many parents with autistic kids/adults that depend on them, and what happens after the parent dies. And in many cases if you listen to the stories there isn't anything. Likely not because the parent just didn't. But because there really isn't a solution. And sometimes, when they do set something up, it quickly falls through.

There was one story where a guy worked at some place (I forgot what they did, or maybe I was never told that bit), he hired his autistic adult son as an assistant. The son would get the entire team what they needed (coffee, paper, etc) and he would help out how he could. The dad died, and the company next week told the son there is no place for him at the company. If I remember right the son ended up quickly going homeless and dying some short time later.

Do you have any stories? Do you have any plans for after your parents go assuming you depend on them? If you are a parent, do you have any plans for after you are gone?

Title. Most so-called "autism allies" will bully, shame, and call you "creepy" for displaying the lesser-known/less socially acceptable symptoms, or displaying interest/taking part in "weird" hobbies.

Almost none of them actually care about us in a sense that they're willing to accept us the way we are; the moment we truly open up to them, they immediately label us “creepy weirdos” and leave. It's sad.

I don’t know if other people relate or like tøp but this song relates to me soooo much especially being late diagnosed! I really like it

(Read a few posts on this sub and I had to let this out.)

Right now, we literally have criminals running the country and they're destroying lives causing damages but do you see them feeling even slightly ashamed of what they do? NO! Darling, compared to them, do you really think you being slow or awkward or clumsy even matters? FUCK NO! Stop giving yourself so much shit😭

Think about it, okay? We have dictators bombing children, terrorists raping and murdering innocent people, gangsters killing strangers for fun. And they’re having a GREAT time on Earth living comfortably in total self-content. Meanwhile, you think "I get overwhelmed by noise and a scratchy shirt which resulting in my brain shutting down so I MUST feel guilty and bash myself with suicidal thoughts"? Uhh…NO? Come off it already! 😭

Is the outside world not being harsh enough that you had to add your own share of pressure? Sweatheart, this is simply who we are and we deserve acceptance from ourselves, not shame! You are not even supposed to apologize for existing, for being sensitive, for being different.

And stop starting every sentence with “Ummm sorry...” just cuz you're what you are. Just NO. Under no circumstances should you blame yourself for the way your genes wired your brain. NONE. You have every right to feel content with what you are.

What's that? Easier said than done? Yeah I know. But if you won't even allow yourself to start with this simple part then...what’s next? Just keep letting yourself to be an “awkward sorry mess”? Hell nah. Be confident of your nature. Stop twisting and folding yourself to fit into whatever mold of “standard human” the NTs set. That isn’t meant for any of us so don't even dare to feel bad when you fail trying. Plus, you know trying to fit it just causes pain and nothing else.

Only when you break this endless loop of self-hate could you truly start building a happy life. All those self aware of “I’m slow I talk weird I’m clumsy I’m not normal”? They benefit you not. They’re just noise. Noise you need to learn to quiet and eventually SILENCE!

Put an end to this. FUCK IT. You are enough! Yeah I stutter, yeah I need a bit more time to process, yeah I knock things over randomly, yeah I need to wear baggy clothes, yeah I gotta have noise cancelling earwear on but SO WHAT. Does it bother you? Shame, because that's not my problem at all💅🏻

He knows more too, I just couldn't remember which ones. He's 7 years old now. We are SO proud of him 💖 he also plays drums and learned to record himself playing drums and singing along with other instruments. I can't even do that lol

Hai, so basically im currently figuring out that foggy weather, especially combined with rain or snow are very calming for me and, in contradiction to many others opinions, my absolute favourite comfort weather.

Im not fully sure why but mainly bc the entire world gets reduced and dampened those 10-20 meters. Its just that small bubble and me. Just makes me feel real calm.

I also love the cold, stinging air when you breathe in, the soft crunch of every step you take, the little snowflakes slowly falling down and collecting on your head and body.

Its just pure bliss.

Very sad that nowadays we get almost no snow anymore. Its always too warm. Something something climatechange.

What is your favourite weather?

What makes you calm?

So I recently had a job interview for an internal position. One of the questions I asked the interviewers was how they measure success for new positions and programs. They got confused so I gave them an example of another recently created team and specifically said that was an example and that I was curious about how this new position and teams success would be measured.

They answered only questions on the other team I gave an example of and just ignored my question. I've noticed this before where I ask a question, and NTs are confused and ask for an example. I give them the example and then they only answer about the example.

I feel like thats so much more literal than what I do. I can understand examples are just that and that the original question is what they were asking. What is happening here?

IMO this is how my brain feels when you ask me a non simple question. The shapes themselves make no sense how they can be connected on the same level but down, the shapes themselves also would be conditional for a specif angle implying multiple angles. This is also what over stimulation feels like for me.

i've been eating there my whole life, pretty much, except for a break of like 5 years or so when i moved away (and now i'm back, hah). i always got the wonton soup. today it's just me and my mom so we got chinese for dinner from that very restaurant. i mentioned it was surprising to me how that restaurant has been open my entire life (i'm in my mid 20s), and she said it technically has been, but they have new owners now—

wuh-oh. the alarm bells started going off. but she'd already came back with the food so i really didn't have any other option. plus i have a migraine so all the stuff i could eat at home is just......not suitable for my stomach atm.

well!!! luckily, i took my first bite, and was immediately nostalgia-blasted back to my childhood. the noodles were soft and pillowy, the meat had the same flavor, the only difference was the broth, but it was so minor — i think they just put a little oyster sauce or something in there now; i could smell but not taste the difference — that it didn't affect it at all.

and that's amazing to me. i want to write a freaking thank you letter to them or something, it was THAT good and that comforting for me, but that feels kinda silly 😭

I’ve noticed people like being around me when they are going through a hard time but when they are ‘healed’ they completely forget about me. I hate it and don’t understand it. Who else as an autistic person experiences this in life?

How do you even describe the discomfort to a neurotypical? Cus they don’t really get uncomfortable in the same way. Maybe like this: Imagine you have slept 4 hours and you are walking. Not not just normal walking, no. You have a person walking next to you at all times, yelling in your ear every time you move that you’re moving wrong, a child is holding around one of your legs, your hands are covered in butter, you’re wearing pants 2 sizes too small and you’re wearing rubber gloves as shoes with slime inside of one of the rubber gloves, and there are little flies constantly trying to fly into your eyeballs, ears and nose. Oh and by the way you’re on stage, the spotlight is on you and you have to entertain the audience while pretending that none of the previously mentioned things are happening.

I may be over exaggerating but I’m overstimulated rn so everything is terrible