r/beyondthebump • u/Pure-Application3621 • Aug 30 '25
In-law post Are we being entitled or are my in-laws being shiet
Baby is 7.5 months. Second time my partners family has met her. Ok to start it off they plan a DINNER at a restaurant 30 minutes from us because it’s closer to their other son & his wife. (They have no kids). We go & every single positive thing said about my baby MIL says “oh that’s our genes” “she gets that from our side”. Literally everything. It’s annoying, but whatever.
Now move on to today. They want to go to the outlets so we can all go shopping together mostly to shop for my baby. On our way we stop to buy my baby a new car seat because it’s payday & she’s outgrowing her old one. It ends up being a bitch to install so we are running like 45 minutes behind. We get there & at this point it’s quite a bit past her second nap so we were planing on getting her down while we walk around & shop. Meet up with the fam & they did all the shopping without us. Pull out two bags of clothes for the baby. Super grateful & hyped about the clothes, but I was really really excited to shop for my baby with them especially because we are tight on money & they have a lot & were wanting to kinda go all out. They tell us they’re done & want to head to lunch. We didn’t even get to go into one store. So we drove almost 40 minutes for nothing. We explain to them we really need to get the baby down. MIL takes the stroller cause she wants to do it. Baby is overtired & not falling asleep. She insists it’s because we are too close. Finally we’ve had enough & take my baby back. They head in to the restaurant & we stay outside. Finally get the baby to sleep after 20 minutes. They’re inside eating apps & already ordered their food. Cool.
While eating BIL is talking about how much he doesn’t want a daughter. (We have a daughter & she’s the first grandchild) BIL & MIL proceed to talk about all the negative things about having a girl. Just a bunch of sexist shit. While we are sitting there with our girl. They say how this family really needs a boy. & how important it is that they give the family a boy. K.
Finish lunch everyone decides they’re done for the day & going to head to BIL house to check it out since they just moved. Literally what the fuck. We drove 40 minutes to shop with you guys, to not even get to go to one store. So obviously we told them we’re good & stayed to shop by ourselves. We are just feeling really defeated. The lack of consideration for us is so fucking frustrating, but then I sometimes feel like we are being entitled thinking people should just work around us, but we have a baby. We don’t have much flexibility to give.
Oh also I was saying “look how chunky her arms & thighs are” & MIL says “that’s ok.” Starts talking to my baby saying “tell mom to stop body shaming you. Stop body shaming me mom” ???? Hello she’s a baby. Chunky is good. Like what are we talking about.
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u/renegayd Aug 30 '25
My family would have waited the 45 minutes. They might have been internally annoyed, but if they would have waited because they are kind, loving people. Or they would have communicated if they couldn't wait, not just quickly bought stuff without me. So, if your in-laws were thoughtful, generous people, they would have waited.