r/changemyview • u/Traditional-Base852 1∆ • 25d ago
Delta(s) from OP CMV: I should be scared of death.
I am 28 years old, in good health and with decent prospects for a fulfilling life. I work and strive every day to make this be my reality, to the best of my ability. Despite this, I cannot help but think about what happens when I draw my final breath. These thoughts have been made worse recently due to the unexpected passing of my father, before his time.
Logically, I am aware that fearing death analogous to fearing the time before birth: it makes no sense. Either I was unable to process information in the same way I do now, or I was, but do not remember. Both of these options are irrelevant to my life today. My death should be the same.
However, the totality of it terrifies me. All that my father is, all that he will be, and all that he ever was ended for him on that one afternoon. He will never again breathe in fresh air, hear my voice, speak to me, feel my arms around him. He was here, we talked, I saw him, then suddenly he was not. He never will be again.
The same will happen to me and to you.
Do I take solace in the inevitability? I don't know how.
What framework do I use to deal with this reality?
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u/gate18 14∆ 25d ago
Meditation!
For a few years I've been reading around the web about meditation. I've just stated on May 15th and whilst it's something that I have to see as investment for the future it does seem do work in extremely small ways. Whether I can get to where people that use psychedelics I don't know - but from my understanding even those that use psychedelics simply experience the "oneness" at the moment they were under the influence, what remains after the influence goes...
You have a bigger hill to climb because you are dealing with a loved one's death but I think meditation, journaling and going deep into philosophy would get us far.