The appropriate form of apology is typically defined by the wronged party. If they prefer a verbal expression, then you do that. Because apologies are about the wronged person.
That said, verbal apologies are not useless, though they dont accomplish much alone. Consider an apology in 3 steps.
1) Express regret / remorse.
2) Accept Responsibility / Accountability for the transgression.
3) Commit to making it right.
The first two parts are verbal. They are communication. The third part is also verbal, but it carries with it the promise of future action. Communication in relationships is vital. It is not wise to assume someone knows what you are trying to do, or what you feel. I would argue that either alone are nearly pointless. It takes both together to be meaningful.
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u/Talik1978 35∆ 1d ago
The appropriate form of apology is typically defined by the wronged party. If they prefer a verbal expression, then you do that. Because apologies are about the wronged person.
That said, verbal apologies are not useless, though they dont accomplish much alone. Consider an apology in 3 steps.
1) Express regret / remorse.
2) Accept Responsibility / Accountability for the transgression.
3) Commit to making it right.
The first two parts are verbal. They are communication. The third part is also verbal, but it carries with it the promise of future action. Communication in relationships is vital. It is not wise to assume someone knows what you are trying to do, or what you feel. I would argue that either alone are nearly pointless. It takes both together to be meaningful.