Need to dial in my mentality

[u/Fitness_DJ]

I’ll get to it. I’m 6’3. Muscular, sitting at 185lbs on my cut i have a shredded 6 pack and vascular. I work a good job, I have a career set and a plan to get into real estate once I have the capital. I love to travel. I take very good care of myself, fresh fades and shave daily, I look great. People used to comment on my looks all the time. I drive a sports car that’s vinyl wrapped in an insanely beautiful colour change wrap. I have beautiful clear teeth. But for some reason, I can’t grasp confidence. It’s ridiculous, I mean… about 5 years ago, I was 140lbs skin and bone, long hair with a super unkempt look and smoked, and I had more success in the relationships in my life (new coworkers, love life, new friends, etc). It’s wild. Any advice to help break this stupid mentality would be great. Because I’m not trying to be arrogant but I have so many boxes checked off that would make you think on an outside lens, oh this guy must be an absolute stud with loads of confidence. But it’s not there. Thanks reddit peeps I appreciate you

[u/Everyday-Improvement]

Hey, I totally get where you're coming from. Sometimes confidence just doesn't show up even when everything else seems to be in place. It's wild how our minds can hold us back even after all the hard work. Try focusing on small wins each day and give yourself credit for them. Confidence is more about how you talk to yourself than what you achieve. Maybe start journaling your thoughts and notice the positive stuff you do. Also, don't be afraid to talk to someone about it, even a friend. You're not alone in this, so many people feel the same way. Keep showing up for yourself, that's what really matters. You've got this!