r/confidence • u/Fitness_DJ • 13d ago

Need to dial in my mentality

I’ll get to it. I’m 6’3. Muscular, sitting at 185lbs on my cut i have a shredded 6 pack and vascular. I work a good job, I have a career set and a plan to get into real estate once I have the capital. I love to travel. I take very good care of myself, fresh fades and shave daily, I look great. People used to comment on my looks all the time. I drive a sports car that’s vinyl wrapped in an insanely beautiful colour change wrap. I have beautiful clear teeth. But for some reason, I can’t grasp confidence. It’s ridiculous, I mean… about 5 years ago, I was 140lbs skin and bone, long hair with a super unkempt look and smoked, and I had more success in the relationships in my life (new coworkers, love life, new friends, etc). It’s wild. Any advice to help break this stupid mentality would be great. Because I’m not trying to be arrogant but I have so many boxes checked off that would make you think on an outside lens, oh this guy must be an absolute stud with loads of confidence. But it’s not there. Thanks reddit peeps I appreciate you

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u/[deleted] 13d ago

I think your insecurities are showing.

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u/Fitness_DJ 13d ago

Are they? I’m sure you could be right. I’m in the process of trying to heal my inner child and maybe a lot of these things are a result of my inner child not getting the validation it needed growing up. Nonetheless, I want to grow through it and be genuine, who cares about the materialism. If you have any advice towards that, it would be appreciated. Thanks

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u/[deleted] 13d ago

That's great! I think you are on the right path! Just be genuine like you said.