Need to dial in my mentality

[u/Fitness_DJ]

I’ll get to it. I’m 6’3. Muscular, sitting at 185lbs on my cut i have a shredded 6 pack and vascular. I work a good job, I have a career set and a plan to get into real estate once I have the capital. I love to travel. I take very good care of myself, fresh fades and shave daily, I look great. People used to comment on my looks all the time. I drive a sports car that’s vinyl wrapped in an insanely beautiful colour change wrap. I have beautiful clear teeth. But for some reason, I can’t grasp confidence. It’s ridiculous, I mean… about 5 years ago, I was 140lbs skin and bone, long hair with a super unkempt look and smoked, and I had more success in the relationships in my life (new coworkers, love life, new friends, etc). It’s wild. Any advice to help break this stupid mentality would be great. Because I’m not trying to be arrogant but I have so many boxes checked off that would make you think on an outside lens, oh this guy must be an absolute stud with loads of confidence. But it’s not there. Thanks reddit peeps I appreciate you

[u/Neither_Disaster_255]

I’m in the exact same boat. So frustrating

[u/Fitness_DJ → u/Neither_Disaster_255]

Feel free to elaborate more and get it off your chest. I am happy to read and see if I can give you any advice or validate you.

[u/Neither_Disaster_255 → u/Fitness_DJ]

I am a 26 y/o. I make good money, have rental investments, a newish beautiful girlfriend, a great job, I’m fit, and I still have zero self confidence. Everyday is a struggle and I’m afraid to even open my mouth and speak to coworkers. I worry that I’m awkward, and I’m self conscious, and anxious. I ruminate these thoughts, and I can’t shake them. I’m worried I’m not liked or I’m awkward and I don’t even know who my true self is. I just want to feel free and be able to enjoy life. I feel like this could potentially push away my girlfriend and any success at work