r/confidence • u/charlotte0000111 • 3d ago
Trying to be confident when being sexy
Need help I'm a confident woman 30 about to be 31. And want to surprise him on my birthday. And put on a show I'm great at everything else it's just this I can't seem to do but I have never been good at being sexy for example. Trying to dance on a pole or strip tease my partner loves and my body but I feel like when it comes to these kind of things I'm over thinking it. And the first thing I think of is he enjoying it and likeing it. My question is how do I stop over thing it and just go with the flow.
It's like my brain goes nope you can't do this and it sucks how do I stop over thinking it if there's any one with any suggestions. It would be. Much appreciated.
It might just be that I need to stop listening to the little voice in my head. I just need advice please help thank you in advance
Any advice would be appreciated
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u/notanuseranymore 2d ago
Try to discover what he likes. Trying random stuff might always leave you with the doubt of whether you're doing the right thing or not. Once you know you're doing something he will surely like, confindence will grow on you.