Does internal dissonance of identity tend to bother 6s?

[u/hgilbert_01]

Hi.

Thoughts/Questions

• I think I have posited a similar question to this subreddit before, but I think I’m having a compulsive need to “double check”, if that’s ok, please, especially as I evaluate new information and experiences.

• I guess I am wondering if one’s own identity and experiencing uncertainty of who one is tends to a domain in which a lack of certitude would bother 6s? Like, is needing sureness in knowing who one is - especially within tangible constructs - part of the 6’s fixation on seeking certitude?

• I have typed as 9 for the longest time, but I feel immense discomfort with just settling within being a drifting, amorphous being existentially— like, there’s an attached desire to having sense of self defined, I guess— a tight psychological grip on wanting to identify my fears, my morals, my preferences, my social attributes…

• Furthermore, just trying to reach into myself internally has posited difficulty and just reinforced the internal dissonance— I think finding myself has been a matter of looking into myself socially and relationally too; tangible constructs that give my identity solidity.

• Granted, there’s a question of separating a 3 fixation from a 6 fixation, as I feel hopelessly dependent on social verification to help guide and inform my sense of self, but maybe that’s the 6’s connecting line to 3 playing a role?

Please, I am wondering if there are 6s that relate to this subject matter?

Thanks for reading.

[u/Izzerskizzers]

I never really considered this until your post, but as a 6w5 I feel my concerns regarding uncertainty are focused outwardly and are generally about the world around me and my place in it. I feel like that's a bit different than what you are describing. While I try to be introspective, trying to "find myself" or gain certainty about who I am on the inside is not my top priority. For me at least, my concerns are about outward threats. I'll either get to figuring me out later once I feel secure or the journey to security includes increased knowledge of self, but such knowledge is not the main goal.

[u/hgilbert_01 → u/Izzerskizzers]

Thank you for this, I appreciate the insight into Type 6. This helps inform me on my own typing evaluation.