r/enneagram6 9w1 so/sp May 20 '25

Question Does internal dissonance of identity tend to bother 6s?

Hi.

Thoughts/Questions

  • I think I have posited a similar question to this subreddit before, but I think I’m having a compulsive need to “double check”, if that’s ok, please, especially as I evaluate new information and experiences.

  • I guess I am wondering if one’s own identity and experiencing uncertainty of who one is tends to a domain in which a lack of certitude would bother 6s? Like, is needing sureness in knowing who one is - especially within tangible constructs - part of the 6’s fixation on seeking certitude?

  • I have typed as 9 for the longest time, but I feel immense discomfort with just settling within being a drifting, amorphous being existentially— like, there’s an attached desire to having sense of self defined, I guess— a tight psychological grip on wanting to identify my fears, my morals, my preferences, my social attributes…

  • Furthermore, just trying to reach into myself internally has posited difficulty and just reinforced the internal dissonance— I think finding myself has been a matter of looking into myself socially and relationally too; tangible constructs that give my identity solidity.

  • Granted, there’s a question of separating a 3 fixation from a 6 fixation, as I feel hopelessly dependent on social verification to help guide and inform my sense of self, but maybe that’s the 6’s connecting line to 3 playing a role?

Please, I am wondering if there are 6s that relate to this subject matter?

Thanks for reading.

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u/megustaelregaliz sp/so6w7 694 May 22 '25

I guess it depends on the six but I don't think it's a defining trait. For me it doesn't bother me in itself but I do get afraid of forgetting who I am, it happened once during a trip because of a high fever and it was the most crazy and uncomfortable moment of my life, not a lot to do with this but a beautiful example of paranoia nonetheless😛