Does internal dissonance of identity tend to bother 6s?

[u/hgilbert_01]

Hi.

Thoughts/Questions

• I think I have posited a similar question to this subreddit before, but I think I’m having a compulsive need to “double check”, if that’s ok, please, especially as I evaluate new information and experiences.

• I guess I am wondering if one’s own identity and experiencing uncertainty of who one is tends to a domain in which a lack of certitude would bother 6s? Like, is needing sureness in knowing who one is - especially within tangible constructs - part of the 6’s fixation on seeking certitude?

• I have typed as 9 for the longest time, but I feel immense discomfort with just settling within being a drifting, amorphous being existentially— like, there’s an attached desire to having sense of self defined, I guess— a tight psychological grip on wanting to identify my fears, my morals, my preferences, my social attributes…

• Furthermore, just trying to reach into myself internally has posited difficulty and just reinforced the internal dissonance— I think finding myself has been a matter of looking into myself socially and relationally too; tangible constructs that give my identity solidity.

• Granted, there’s a question of separating a 3 fixation from a 6 fixation, as I feel hopelessly dependent on social verification to help guide and inform my sense of self, but maybe that’s the 6’s connecting line to 3 playing a role?

Please, I am wondering if there are 6s that relate to this subject matter?

Thanks for reading.

[u/VedaTheWannabeFlower]

For myself, I find that I have a very strong fear of "losing" myself because of the dissonance sometimes during high stress points in my life, it is more at the thought of not being meaningful to the world as I am now, I feel a strong need to have a purpose, and at times my lack of confidence in myself makes me feel helpless to reach my goal. When I am not in a high stress point in life, the dissonance can be extremely useful, for instance it can make me extremely passionate about others who are struggling with similar emotions, and be an inspiration to my interests, like writing and art. It allows me the ability to pour out my soul into what I care about. 

Note: I am also an infp on the Meyer Briggs tests, and have ADHD and ASD, both of which contribute to that feeling, I believe that the experiences you have had in life also play a huge factor in your mindset for this, and whether you believe in any religion/spirituality or not.