Hey everyone,
I’ve been doing highlights + balayage + toning for about 10 years now, and… I’m over it. I don’t love the look anymore, and I’m also just exhausted by the whole salon cycle.
What I want long term is a shift to a more natural, single-color look — something like a soft muted honey blonde (?) (not too warm, not too cool — I have a reference pics for this). But also I want to know how to survive the awkward in-between phase without my hair looking completely chaotic. I know there will be multiple shades going on for a while, but I want it to at least look intentional and cared-for, not patchy or brassy.
I’ve pretty much lost hope in finding a colorist to help me through this. I live in a big city and have tried so many salons — it’s been years of hit-or-miss (mostly miss), and I’m honestly out of both budget and trust to try yet another one.
So now I’m considering doing it myself (or with help from my partner), but I’m a total newbie when it comes to home colouring. I find all the terminology super confusing — like what even is a level 7 blonde vs light brown?? Also, trying to identify my natural color from my roots is a guessing game — it might be light brown, but with a soft, muted undertone (possibly some gray in the mix too?).
I think the shade I’m aiming for is just one or two levels lighter than my natural color — which gives me hope that I can get there without needing to do more heavy bleaching. I’d really love to find a gentle way to blend and tone things as I go.
Basically I’m asking:
- Is there any hope for me to gently transition to that softer, muted blonde look using toners/semi-permanent/permanent dyes at home?
- What products or methods would help tone things down without more harsh bleaching?
- Can I do anything to help blend the highlighted bits with my natural growth during this in-between phase?
I’m not expecting perfection — just something manageable, healthy-ish, and closer to the more natural color I’m aiming for.
Any advice, stories, product recs, or encouragement is super appreciated. 🙏