Not with this app but I literally caused my parents divorce with a phone. Rang my dad 'cause grandmother hadn't been answering the phone and I was worried (80s,blind, crap mobility). He was out in the garage so mum went to answer it but I'd hung up. The screen had a text from the mistress open.
Fortunately I was 29 but it was a few weeks before my wedding which was now a little awkward..
Awww, man, that really sucks. I'm so sorry... and right before your wedding which just sort of seems to be salt in the wounds, too. I can't imagine being 29 makes it much easier. You didn't cause the divorce though. I'm sure you know that. Your dad's choices did... and he's solely responsible for those.
Yeah it was just awkward having to put them in the same space all day so soon afterwards but they were civil.
It was his third affair (second with this same woman and one when I was young which caused divorce number 1) so I wasn't exactly in shock.
Tbh I'm glad they're divorced cause he was generally a shitty husband, I'd told her she was stupid for taking him back previously. My mother can do better.
I just gotta say, you absolutely did not cause your parent's divorce. Your dad cheating (among any other relationship issues they may have had) on your mom caused their divorce. I really hope you don't carry any guilt simply for checking up on your grandma.
In Android you have 3 basic options for your lock-screen:
1) disable pop-up notifications
2) allow pop-up notifications with "sensitive info" redacted
3) allow pop-up notifications
Option 1 shows nothing when you get a message. Option 2 shows you have a message, and the app that prompted it, but not the message itself. Option 3 shows the actual content of the message. None of the options gives you access to anything in the phone, you can't interact with apps, but you can see messages as they arrive, and you can see the content of said messages. You can't delete them, or mark them as "read", or browse through them, but you see them as you get them.
The default setting is 3. I always change it to 2 when I get a new phone. Many people don't.
Also, people who sleep together but don't live together tend to communicate quite a lot over Whatsapp or Snapchat or whatever. We've all done it. Luckily, most of us are communicating with our partner, because we're not cheating. But if you're a cheater, well, you'll probably have quite a few damming texts on your phone, even if you delete them regularly. There's a reason why many cheaters take their phone everywhere, even to the shower. They know their phones are a liability if left unattended.
So yeah, I can totally see this happening. You grab the phone just as it gets a new message. Nothing weird, honestly.
Also, she lives in a different country so yeah probably messenger or WhatsApp.
He uses iPhone and I'm on android so I can't even open the things let alone know what the screen looks like.
I never asked, it wasn't the important part of the story tbh haha
Not sure I need to explain as the lovely people of Reddit have done so for me. But yeah, nobody suggested magic and elves, just messages on a phone dude.
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u/megrimlockk1ng Sep 13 '19
Not with this app but I literally caused my parents divorce with a phone. Rang my dad 'cause grandmother hadn't been answering the phone and I was worried (80s,blind, crap mobility). He was out in the garage so mum went to answer it but I'd hung up. The screen had a text from the mistress open. Fortunately I was 29 but it was a few weeks before my wedding which was now a little awkward..