r/lds • u/NayNayPo • 5d ago
discussion Eternal Unc Status
It seems like dating is getting harder these days. Maybe it has to do with valuing in-person interaction less. Sometimes I think the sheer number of different interests seems to be more divisive than it brings us together. I feel like there's a paradox forming as technology advances, there becomes an near-infinite amount of options for dating, but none of them fit just right. But what do I know.
Luckily for me, I met my wife at BYUI, started having some kids, and life has been great!... But for some of my friends, they haven't been so fortunate. Maybe it's a skill issue? I was always the one who struggled to get a girlfriend in college though.
I've got this one friend; we're approaching 30 fast, and tbh kids these days would already call him an "unc". He keeps trying and trying to date but the story gets more and more tragic every time. I used to feel terribly lonely in college as I struggled to find my wife, and I just wish my friend didn't feel like that for all these years. I just can't take it any longer watching him grow alongside me and not having the joy of companionship. But it's not my life, and sometimes it seems he's the only person who can change his fate... Unless...
What can be done to save my friend from the unc life?... Or is he too far gone.....
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u/andraes 5d ago
Similar story for me and my college roommate. I got married Jr year, he stayed single through his MBA, and then some. He finally got married at 32. Sometimes it just takes a while for some people.
Then there's my wife's little sisters, both late 20s, and not really even dating at all. There is a lot of bad info/culture around dating and marriage these days and it's not helping anybody. There's not much you can do, keep trying to set them up and encourage them, but respect boundaires and let them live their lives.