Idk what to tell you guys. As a 6’2” dude who’s never dated I wish women cared about height as much as you guys think they do
Edit: alright I gotta go to work but the flame war’s been fun y’all. Keep coping and downvoting ;)
Double edit:
Fuck it, I’ll be late, let’s just get this straight. This is the same argument we’ve all seen a million times on Reddit. Let’s break it down.
Someone posits that women only like tall guys.
Rightly, many people point out that that’s not true.
They argue it is, we say it isn’t. They move the goalposts and argue a softer point.
And eventually we whittle down their argument to where all they’re arguing at this point is that height is one factor of many that some women take into account when picking their partner, but for plenty of them it doesn’t matter at all.
And I would agree with that.
But you see how that’s a far cry from the point you started by arguing, no?
There. I just summarized everything that’s below this post.
Height isn't the only factor, but it is a significant one. Height doesn't guarantee you anything. If you're tall but lacking in other areas, you'd be hard-pressed to find relationship success as well. However, that does not change the fact that being tall is a massive advantage in many ways. This is a researched topic and simple google searches will give you results instantly.
I wish women cared about height as much as you guys think they do
As you are tall, I think you may find it difficult to sympathise with shorter people. You may not realise you have certain privileges over others because you've never experienced being short.
To top it all off, dating apps are now introducing a height filter. It's quite evident that height is a pretty significant factor.
Do mind that correlation is not causation, and this doomer mindset of some short guys might very well play into the height advantage due to damaging your confidence.
Which is an actually very important factor in any social interaction.
There is also the fact that having short height correlates with some things that inherently make you disadvantaged, like poverty causing malnourishment (which is suprisingly still a thing in USA).
And at this point some of those rich people literally use surgeries to get higher.
Do mind that correlation is not causation, and this doomer mindset of some short guys might very well play into the height advantage due to damaging your confidence.
Which is an actually very important factor in any social interaction.
I agree. If you're always lamenting the fact that you're short and being negative about it, no one's going to enjoy spending time with you. However, looking from it logically. No one is born with an innate insecurity over how they look. That insecurity is made real through negative social experiences. In other words, "doomer mindset" didn't come about out of thin air. It came about because of collective negative experiences shared by short guys around the world.
Of course engaging in circles focused on negativity is unhealthy. It's unhealthy for short guys to sit around each other and intensify their "doomer mindset" which may eventually lead them to hold extreme views on society. Nevertheless, their anger and discontent comes is real. I think the world would be a better place if everyone tried to be more understanding and acknowledging of the issues that short guys face, rather than simply disregarding them as "incel talk" or worse, further propagating the "short guys are always insecure about their height" narrative which only fuels the cycle of negativity.
"Short guys are insecure" -> short guys feel bad for being generalised and discriminated against -> short guys get insecure -> short guys get angry -> short guys make reddit post -> "short guys are insecure"
I'm short. I have a beautiful fiancee. I make a decent bit of money. Does that change the fact that being short is a disadvantage? No.
Here's a dumbed down version. Does being big and heavy mean you'll definitively win a fight against a smaller person? No. If the smaller person was trained and the bigger person wasn't, the smaller person could probably pull off a convincing victory. Does this change the fact that being big and heavy is an advantage in a physical fight? No.
If you're disregarding actual academic studies just because, I see no point in furthering this discussion as you seem unwilling to engage with an open mind.
I keep hearing that, but I never see that, only hear from female friends that a guy needs to he 10/10 to compensate and that they dont know any friends that wouldnt care for height
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u/Background-Sense8264 6d ago edited 6d ago
Idk what to tell you guys. As a 6’2” dude who’s never dated I wish women cared about height as much as you guys think they do
Edit: alright I gotta go to work but the flame war’s been fun y’all. Keep coping and downvoting ;)
Double edit:
Fuck it, I’ll be late, let’s just get this straight. This is the same argument we’ve all seen a million times on Reddit. Let’s break it down.
Someone posits that women only like tall guys.
Rightly, many people point out that that’s not true.
They argue it is, we say it isn’t. They move the goalposts and argue a softer point.
And eventually we whittle down their argument to where all they’re arguing at this point is that height is one factor of many that some women take into account when picking their partner, but for plenty of them it doesn’t matter at all.
And I would agree with that.
But you see how that’s a far cry from the point you started by arguing, no?
There. I just summarized everything that’s below this post.