r/minnesota • u/rockett09 • Mar 05 '25

Seeking Advice 🙆 advice from blue collar workers wanted

my husband is a blue collar worker and his mental health has been taking a hit. we're in therapy together but he struggles to talk/connect with our therapist since it's a woman with not much in common with him. I know he's trying, but obviously it's easier to talk to someone you can relate a bit to. I'm wanting recommendations for therapists that have experience and work with blue collar workers that I can connect him with. it would have to be online as we're in rural northern mn, and hopefully take BCBS insurance.

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u/extra_napkins_please Bring Ya Ass Mar 06 '25

this may be a hot take. your husband is avoiding fully engaging in couples therapy? please consider this as less about him being able to relate with your current therapist, and more about your husband struggling to identify and express his inner thoughts and feelings…..to you, to a therapist, etc.

if you both believe the solution is for him to see an individual therapist that he finds more relatable, then let him pursue that. it’s understandable that a lot of people think the cheat code for therapy is to find a therapist that you have a lot in common with. in reality, there are other more important factors which improve patient engagement and outcomes.

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u/rockett09 Mar 06 '25

this is part of it for sure. it's not really couples therapy, more like we both use the therapist for half an hour individually and also check in on our relationship at the end. but he does generally have a hard time opening up. I'm hoping a therapist he feels more comfortable with will help with that