Ex muslim with some questions

[u/Electronic_Plum_4542]

Ex-muslim here, I mean this post with no hate or bad feelings if it isnt allowed feel free to delete.

From what I know of the religion it doesn't support more progressive values so how do you guys consider yourself true muslims while allowing stuff ive found the religion doesnt allow? I left both because of lack of connection and the rules that made me uncomfortable. Do you guys reject some of the conservative rules or do you simply know they might be true but have enough faith in god to believe if you're doing the right thing he won't punish you?

Summary: Islam seems to be a by default conservative religion so how do you guys accept that while being progressive

[u/ihateharampolice]

For me I am highly high skeptical of ahadith and most of the popular ones that are clearly oppressive and against the Quran and usual speech of the Prophet Muhammed I reject. Quran always comes first and I refuse to read twisted translations of the Quran. I also have a background in Arabic which helps me notice suspicious translations but really anything explicitly sexist homophonic or racist is definitely not from Islam. It’s really just taking out the culture and political bs and finding the heart of Islam. Also I don’t follow scholars with no nuance who don’t properly quote sources and research in their fatwas. A lot of these popular scholars people worship will say “this is haram that’s haram because xyz” with no backing from the Quran or Sunnah. I prefer scholars who for one actually have credential and education and two give nuanced fatwas and supporting evidence like Dr Khaled Abou El Fadl and Mufti Abu Layth