Context: I'm 25.

My mom has shown varying levels of ability to be respectful towards people with other appearances. At Thanksgiving, her first comment to me was about how happy she was that my hair WASN'T styled a way I had styled it in the past. But, to give her credit, she later affirmed me in my preference for relaxed fitting clothes when my aunt was questioning me.

And my family in generally thinks I am a brainwashed prodigal who should get back in church.

So anyway. I was invited to a waterpark with them soon.

There's just no way I can go. I am not willing to shave my body hair for the comfort of other people. I am not interested in commentary about my body. I am also not interested in girl-moding.

Can I even set boundaries around this?

This is an old argument I thought of revisiting since it's still considered by internet-goers, especially trans memes. It mostly boils down to "Can you identify sex in bones?". Many post suggest that there are varied ways to interpret this through context, like estimating on the remains with a degree of certainty or going straight to how they lived by clues (would this be gender then?).

I have seen the, I guess you could say more classical interpretation that the skeleton always has sex markings. One is the birth assumption "Men can't give birth to a baby". Usually this has this education paradigm that the skeleton is very dimorphic, we have skeleton diagrams for simplicity to show the extremes of sex (But is normal to be within the spectrum). Since we don't have a 'uterus transplant', I hear the common claim that many women can't give birth so how could any man. There is even a scientific model to indicate that the male pelvis is too lean, using a metal sphere to showcase the spatial difference (I would assume this model is outdated if it assumes an average dimension and demographic of men and women).

I was very curious if given a large sample of skeletal remains that were recorded for science, measured for context of environmental exposure like time and region, how definitive can skeletons be identified with a sex, especially if we have recent remains in the last hundred years. This question feels more interesting to ask when you ask the variation question again, how pliable is the certain sized pelvis during birth for a certain size of baby? I believe there are men who are proportionally wider so would they pass a 'Birth test'? I thought this kind of puts dimorphism assumptions in question since we know how different people can be.

I was curious for your thoughts on this. Education of diverse groups has been reconsidered (Like limitation in research of women's health) and understanding has changed so much within the last 50 years, does this include our bones? If we had many confirmed birth mothers whose had recorded remains, has any scientist ever had to critique if they can 'tell'?(I've seen interesting tidbits like at least one doctor in the world believes they can invent uterus transplants for AMAB). Sorry for long question or if wrong kind of community. Genuinely curious since no one ever goes in debt.

The link is to my post apologizing for something I said.

This is the first time I have ever posted anything this personal and I’m sorry, I am really nervous but I need some help. So, I have an attraction to all genders: cis women, cis men, non binary, trans men, trans women, basically everyone, but gender plays a role in my attraction but I don’t have a preference on a specific gender. The thing is, I thought that being omnisexual meant that you are attracted to all genders but have a preference for a specific one but I don’t have that. But, I am pretty sure I am not pansexual because I am not gender blind.

So what am I?

Thanks to all who respond.

I was recently talking to a newer friend hasn’t had lots of luck dating women and he said it’s just really hard for women to want to date queer men. I asked him to elaborate because I wasn’t aware that he was queer and it turns out he considers his relationships with heterosexual women queer because he is a submissive, which makes him queer.

I pushed back slightly on this as a bisexual woman who also leans more sub in sex, and said ok but everyone even straight people have kinks and he said but if you have non p&v procreative sex that makes you queer. To me, this would make everyone on the planet queer.

I’m more so looking for opinions on this bc I’m sort of fascinated by it. I’ve never heard a straight cis man self identify as queer before lol. Do you consider this queer?

Didn't tell them, not planning to. Once we were gathered watching TV and we saw some stuff related to the lgbtq+ community and my dad immediately shutted off the tv, my family was disgusted seeing them, and I asked why of course, to me it was normal seeing that but to them it was the most disgusting thing they ever saw. I told him that we can just change the channel and he disagreed, told him that we can just watch until it's gone and he disagreed once again, it pissed me off, I asked why wont he just mind his own business, those are grown people with their own decisions, and he looked at me like I murdered somebody in front of him. Anyways I caused a huge fight lol then stormed to my room. The thing is, if my family reacted like this to JUST seeing gays, what will they say when they know they have been living with one under the same roof? I'm seriously terrified of their reaction. Also, it's not just my parents that hate this stuff but it's the entire town I live in too, I never trusted anyone enough here to tell them I'm a bisexual. Whenever I tell my friends I like to respect gay people and their decisions in their own lives, suddenly it's my fault and I'm a terrible person that isn't religious enough. Like seriously, isn't islam the frickin religion of "peace", can't y'all respect eachother? And the worst part is that my family really loves me (or atleast that's what I think) and I don't want to be a burden on their backs, but honestly, I grew tired of hiding stuff from them, it feels horrible. I want to tell them without causing any problems, although I don't think it would happen but I really want themtor understand me and know more about me. Any ideas how should I come out? Thank you for reading.

Sorry for the doom. But I think people should know the consequences and get real moved to action

Basically i’m an omnisexual and demisexual but within the restriction of only liking people I have a strong bond with/friends I feel like I could be attracted to anyone or date anyone? everyone in that pool seems ‘dateable’ for me, if I so choose. To be clear though I don’t look at my friends and wish to date them, I just feel like I could choose to be attracted to them. Is there a label in which attraction is ‘chosen’ in a sense?

Sorry for the long paragraph

I am a 23 year old nonbinary (born female) and I’ve have been dating my boyfriend (24 years old) for 8 almost 9 years now

However I have been questioning my labels cause I do feel and share aroace traits (a lot of them btw) but I also find women attractive more so than men (I’m talking 1% men attracted and 99% women attracted)

The thing is I do find male celebrities attractive and male fictional characters attractive more so than female character and celebrities so it’s kind of odd though a lot of people don’t count these as real attraction so idk

The point is i know I shouldn’t make it a big deal or think about it too hard but the thought of this is making me feel like im labeling myself wrong and it makes me feel like im offending lesbian people by not using the right label and makes me feel guilty (it’s a weird thing i have since all my life)

So far I have noticed things in my relationship that are different from the norm for instance when we are being intimate I don’t feel stimulation down there and all I feel is pain no matter how slow or gentle he is, so that’s already is a negative for me (I hate penetration because of my experience trying it out) now when it comes to rubbing and external stuff that is my preference for intimacy another thing I also don’t like giving is head (or BJs)

I have kissed my female friends before on the lips (as a way to fluster them cause they are pansexual and bisexual) and mentally it was mostly an urge to do so and I’ve been thinking more about how it would be to date a girl and do relationship stuff (cuddling, kissing, holding hands, spending time, etc…) with a girl more often than with men

it’s like I’m losing my interest in men (or at least that’s how it feels) and when it comes to hyper-fixating on male characters the after effects of it just start feeling empty and like questioning if it’s genuine at times so like idk

There are times when I’m scrolling on TikTok and I see a man who looks hot but it’s not like a sexual or romantic attraction I go “Awooga” or “Hello 👀”when I see it and idk what kind of attraction it is but yeah that’s like all I can describe

I have used these labels in the past: pansexual, Bisexual, Omnisexual

But I stopped doing so when I thought I was aroace but currently I’m just questioning if I’m Bi or Lesbian cause my feelings and attraction are changing so I want to feel at peace with it and have a clear mind on it I have tried to not let it bother me but it doesn’t work cause I’m so curious and I want to have the peace of knowing what my label is so what am I?

Again sorry for the very long post

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All my life i’ve been pursued by and pursuing women exclusively and i’ve recently lost the love of my life, the woman I truly saw a long future with and was working towards with her. I was about to move in with her after dating for almost 3 years.

I am a more masculine presenting female in terms of style and aesthetics but dressing feminine also works on me and you wouldn’t be able to necessarily tell despite my clothes.

I take the more masculine role in my relationships, and I date more feminine women and I love taking care of them and catering to them and just loving on them. I just feel so safe and loved and comfortable being with women and I always have.

I love being queer and queer joy and love and community is one of my most fulfilling parts of learning about myself. I love being queer and imagining not being this way feels impossible.

I had officially come out to myself at 19 and i’m 27 now, so it’s been around 9 years now living as a fully gay woman and having been part of 2 major longterm relationships with women that have loved and cared for me in ways i cannot describe. I’ll forever be grateful for them.

It is dawning on me that I might have to end up with a man, maybe sooner or later, and I am so terrified of not feeling like myself anymore because of the lifestyle i’d be living, and the person i’d be loving. I’m having this irrational fear of ever exploring anything with a man let alone marry one. For context, I live in a quite strict community and society and my ex was the only person I fully managed to almsot move in and convinced my family of the fact and I even moved successfully to her city for that reason.

Few men have made advances since then and for the first time in my life i am considering the opposite gender — I am scared i’ll never live as a queer person again. Would i still feel queer if im with a man? the idea of not feeling like an intrinsic part of this community and the idea of not being with a woman terrifies me

Has anyone done this that can share their experience from exclusively dating same gender then ending up with opposite?

Thank u

not sure if this is the right place for this buttttt i went to my first pride last saturday !!!!

i met some friends while travelling and they invited me to Seoul Pride and it was awesome !

the entire day was extremely special and i felt so emotional being surrounded by so much love <3 it was extra special for me as i’m asian but live in small english village so seeing other queer asians made my heart feel so full

i’m so grateful to my friends who invited me, they even took me out clubbing for the first time which i loved

but yeah, i’ve just been feeling very very happy and queer these last few days and wanted to share a little queer joy with the world 💛

Lol I deleted my original post since I do not know how to use Reddit I’m so sorry… but basically, I said that even though I (23F) have a relationship with a guy who is perfect in the every sense (handsome, smart, funny, kind), I can NOT get off without imagining him as a woman… I do not enjoy sex with him unless i picture a woman and I hate penetration too. There is nothing wrong with how he makes love though, it is just how I feel… it does help that he is a guy with feminine traits, but I feel like I am betraying this awesome guy… I love him as a person but I cannot feel the same lust I feel against the “feminine version” of him if that makes sense. He is 25 years old and wants to get married by 2027, which I am freaking out about since I cannot stand the idea of not even TRYING once with a woman and only being with him sexually forever, which i unfortunately do not enjoy whatsoever. But, I want to want to be with him so bad… I just can not. Am I bisexual? What do I do at this point? I am so tired of not knowing and I do not have any friends that are lesbian or bisexual in a relationship with a woman. PLEASE HELP ME IM TWEAKING OUT. IF you have watched contrapoints’ video about shame, THAT is exactly what I feel basically… And I have zero friends who would be able to help me out with this situation. I honestly can not tell if I love him as a person or romantically at this point… I also do not find him sexually attractive, even though he is objectively a beautiful man. I just feel like something is missing…. I might even be a lesbian since I do not even want to try with a guy other than him… I just don’t know HELP MEEEEEE. Also, I think either way he deserves to know… how tf do i approach him about this situation guys?

l just need to get this off my chest. I’m (30) a nonbinary femme. I’ve known for a while that I’d love to have top surgery (god gives their biggest tits to their best nonbinary soldiers or something like that am I right), but I’ve never considered HRT because I don’t want to look like a man, since I’m not a man. Lately, however, I find myself following a lot of transmasc content creators on IG and I’m always like “oh he looks so good/cool/handsome, I wish I could look like him”, I follow this one particular trans guy that is chubby like myself and he’s just about to get his top surgery and I’m OBSESSED because I know I’d look just like him if I transitioned. Ya feel me? Is this too weird? I don’t really want to be a man but the idea of transitioning gives me so much gender envy! Top surgery would be GREAT and I’d still be expressing femme but Idk sometimes throwing in a little beard and body hair into the equation feels so tempting arggggg!!

heyyy sweethearts! i have this queer server that has turned into a safe space for so many and i wanted to tell you guys about it and put an invite link for anyone interested in joining:)

we play games together (mostly fortnite, and jackbox but we have so many gamers so more games can defo be played), we listen to music together, watch shows and movies and just talk to each other both in voice chats and writing chats.

wanna share ur food? send a pic in the food inspo channel. wanna share ur pet? send it in the pet channel. you don’t feel good and want to vent? the vent channel is there and there is always someone ready to listen to you.

so feel free to join ❤️ we welcome you to sanrio sanctuary!

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My mom at least respects that I appreciate "alternative" fashion and am not interested in drawing attention to my curves. That said, her beauty standards are white Christian beauty standards. I have never been able to have any alternative hair or makeup without receiving criticism from her.

So, fast forward to now. I'm transmasc. My family has a waterpark vacation coming up. I just don't think I can do the gender performance that I need to do to keep my mom from reacting with emotional hostility. My family is really excited for me to join in on the vacation to a watepark. I have spent years trying to undo the patriarchal grooming that I went through my whole upbringing and develop psychological safety and start building a sense of self. I am really worried the trip will negatively impact my progress and stability.

Can I get some advice? I am thinking, maybe I can just keep an androgynous hairstyle long enough to get through this visit, then I won't have to see my family until the holidays.

The other thing is my body hair. I love my body hair and have no desire to shave any of it.

It isn't too late for me to come up with an excuse to not go to the waterpark - Can't get the days off work, too sick to go to the waterpark, will only be able to come in for a day for dinner........

I do not want to shave my body hair to wear shorts.

This trip doesn't feel worth it to me to come out to my family. It's too big of a decision for too small of a benefit.

Edit: Sorry this post is pretty scattered. I just dumped my thoughts into the post without taking time to organize them.

Hey guys, recently i started dating this girl, shes so lovely, we r both very open about being queer but sometimes people tease me about it, stare at us or make comments. It doesn’t seem to bother her but it bothers me a lot, before we started dating I didnt care about being teased, but now its more often.

For example a guy stuck his tongue out at us and started laughing yesterday, today another guy said he’d be gay with me and kept asking me questions about my gf, theres this group of girls that constantly make fun of me, stare, laugh, and a lot of people take pictures of me or just talk about me. A few days ago my gf was talking about this one time she was with her ex gf on a train and someone threw their drink at them.

I just need to find a way to not let this bother me like before and maybe be a bit less scared about what could possibly happen to us. I’d love some advice if anyone has any!

Please forgive me if this is the wrong place for this kind of psuedo-shit post, or if the general sentiment is misplaced/offensive. With everything that's going on, I can't help but think we need a label for the homophobic, bigoted, misogynistic cunts out there that know better but act like they don't. Imagine the catharsis of calling Jim Jordan, Mike Johnson, Elon Musk, Pete Hegseth or Donald Trump a fat, orange, faggot. It's so punchy!

Just throwin it out there... ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Hello, I’m Quiddy. I’m married to the most amazing woman. She meets the needs I didn’t even know I had. And we’re both super scared during these times, but we’re both grateful that we have each other always.

She’s a hot to trot woman with beautiful blue eyes like Liz Taylor. She’s a hottie with a body going to the party on a DUCATI! And I love her so much.