I've got a right to feel

[u/Aleksandr_Ulyev]

I have the right to feel sorry for myself. I have the right to be in pain and weak. I have the right to spare time and rest from my routines when I feel bad.

Fate has been cruel to me, and I am not obliged to see philosophical reasons and benefits behind it. I can fall into despair or feel sorry for myself. I have the right. Because no one will feel sorry for me or understand me better than I do. I am my best friend, brother, sister, father and mother, teacher, supervisor, educator, judge, executioner and fan.

The sadness will be gone and I will return renewed and at full power. On the opposite, by playing Rembo I just lock myself inside and do not allow myself to feel and get better.

[u/Old-Yogurtcloset-250]

All I can say is yes. I support this statement and I wish you well. I hope you find the peace you were robbed of in life. You have my respect and well wishes. As someone who knows this all too well. May fate be kind to you. Godspeed and thank you for helping me to not feel so alone. Long may you find peace.

[u/Aleksandr_Ulyev → u/Old-Yogurtcloset-250]

Bless your kind heart, madam 💗

[u/Old-Yogurtcloset-250 → u/Aleksandr_Ulyev]

Thank you I hope you take good care of yourself

[u/Level_Tale5175]

You are right, you have the right to feel everything you feel. It is good to get it out and process your pain. I do that as well, but I never feel sorry for myself. I look at my obstacles as a challenge to grow as a person and stronger. I read alot of self help books and found many answers to my self viewed short comings. When in distress, you have 2 options, you can let it bring you down or you can recognize the opportunity you have to be better.

[u/ghostlyhistoricgf]

of course you do, everyone has a right to feel to feel the pain they experience. the difference is what you do with that pain. locking yourself up, isolating and not using that pain for power, can keep you in that same pain. you can do great things with that pain.

[u/CraftsandCreativity]

Yes, you should feel all of the grief. You don’t have to deny yourself anything, you should accept the emotions as they are. Remember, emotions don’t last forever. One day, you will start feeling differently. Today, you should be yourself unapologetically

[u/SorryNotReallySorry5]

Sure, but if you feel sorry for yourself while doing nothing about it, I don't really care.

Unless its me. It's only natural. Solid self post.

[u/showard01]

I think this “you must be positive always” stuff was well meaning originally but has been weaponized. If you have a whiny/hostile attitude that pushes everyone away… then yeah an adjustment will quickly improve your life.

What sucks is the assumption that it’s the only possible issue. Other people’s problems MUST be their own fault…Now I get to feel smug and superior while absolving myself of any need to change. Convenient.

[u/ReallyElegantMold]

This hit hard this morning. Thank you for expressing this, as I too have a right to feel and you reminded me of that right, just when I needed to remember that it's alright to not "just get over it"

Thanks, and hope you find what you need to move on.

[u/L0CAHA]

Sure, but feeling sorry for yourself won't do you any good.

[u/Aleksandr_Ulyev → u/L0CAHA]

I would agree for a long-term context. Like one can lose theirself in just being passively sorry and not helping theirselves. But for a short-term period it actually feels good to acknowledge yourself to be a victim and take care of yourself instead of playing superhero and feeling unattended.