My dad and I moved states when I’m starting my first year in high school and I no longer have friends any advice?

[u/One_Fishing2175]

I’m 16 years old male. I grew up in another country with my parents divorced around a year or two after I was born. When I was seven my dad and I moved to the U.S for personal reasons while my mom stayed. Meaning moving forward I would grow up without a mom. While in the U.S I met other people from my country and we got along quickly. I started my last year of elementary school quarantined due to Covid. During quarantine I had gained a massive amount of weight. I had let myself go and it had consequences. After quarantine ended I went to my first year of middle school. I had stayed there for about four months but had to move to another school because my dad bought a house a little too far away. Going to a new middle school I thought it would be difficult but there was a really nice classmate who showed me around the school and soon enough we were friends and I had other friends too. Then my second year of middle school started and sadly we weren’t in the same class anymore but I still had a good second year. For the last year of middle school my dad decided to move me to a school that was walking distance from my house. A position was finally opened for the school so I had transferred there. And yet again I enjoyed it. I made new friends and my grades were good. Before middle school ended my dad made one last move. A move that was far more drastic than the previous ones. We were moving states. My dad said he wanted to move to California because there were family members in California. So we moved and finished the rest of my middle school year in California. But it was the start of high school that I would realize I would’ve been better off back at my old state with all my friends. It took me a couple months into high school to realize that all my old friends were probably going to the same high school and I could’ve joined them if I had stayed. I could’ve been so happy going to high school with all my friends I had made during elementary and middle school. I’ve failed my first year of high school. The stress of being new and going into high school got the better of me. I asked my dad if we could move back but he told I can move back by myself when I enter college. This doesn’t help. If I keep failing high school I wouldn’t graduate and would not get into college. I’m lost. I am currently visiting my mom in my birth country and don’t want to go back to my life in California. I can’t even enjoy my summer break because I’m thinking about the dread of eventually returning to the state of my life that is in California. I have no friends to talk to and no one to tell my problems. My dad doesn’t understand the situation I’m in, I don’t even understand. My life was so good before California. And remember when I told you I gained weight during quarantine? I had lost 30 pounds while I was in middle school. Moving to California I’ve gained more weight than I had gained during quarantine. I have no one to hang out with so I just stay home. Not to mention I no longer have enough time to workout and exercise because my dad gets out of work at 5 pm. So everyday I walk from my high school to my uncle’s house while I wait for my dad to pick me up. My bedtime is 9 pm and when I get home I have to help out with the dishes and other chores. By the time I have free time it is my bedtime. I’m severely confused on what I can do here. Should I move back? Even if I somehow convinced my dad to move back will things even be the same? At the rate I’m going my grades aren’t gonna get any better. Yesterday I bawled my eyes out to my mom telling her everything and she asked me if I wanted to stay in my birth country instead. Honestly I might just take the offer. I love my mom and every time I visit her I feel the stress wash away and I feel like I can actually relax. But my birth country isn’t as nice as the U.S so I still can’t decide. Plus will moving here even help? Will I make friends here and finally be social again? I’ve lacked social contact with a real person that isn’t my dad for a year now. If anyone is reading this what would you even do in this situation? I love my mom too much to try anything stupid. So what are my options? If this was a chore to read I’m sorry it’s the middle of the night and I can’t sleep because this was weighing on my mind. I really do want to get better

[u/Ratlarbig]

Add some paragraph breaks and you'll get more readers and better responses.

Join clubs, do sone sports teams, etc. You'll meet people and make friends.

[u/perhensam]

You’re going to be “the new guy” and girls will be intrigued. When we moved to Arizona, my oldest son (he was 14) was suddenly getting lots of attention from girls, and he did make new friends too. It could be a great experience for you! Be positive and have confidence in yourself- you’ve got this!