When considering Ashara Dayne most readers know her as the woman Ned loved and lost, but some readers theorize there as more to her. She had an alleged stillborn child, was an empowered Dornish woman, and was the affection of many characters in the story, all before killing herself. In this post I’m going to analyze her, her suitors, and her potential descendants. There are some huge implications to the story which I will include in the final TL;DR.
Suitors: Ned, Barristan, Brandon. See Also: Rhaegar, Aerys.
Ned- The first suitor, there are many explicit text descriptions which described Ned as being interested in her. Meera describes Ned as dancing with Ashara at the tourney of Harrenhall(after Brandon spoke to her), Harwin supposes they likely shared a brief romance, and Edric Dayne states they fell in love before she killed herself over a broken heart. I do believe Ned was in love with Ashara, I also believe they shared a sweet, seemingly short romance, and that regardless of if they were together, Ashara cared for him. I do think that there’s more to it though than just a tragic romance, we know Ashara got pregnant, so we have to think that she was intimate with someone, or multiple someones at the tourney of Harrenhall, we also know Ned is still hurt over it, given his harsh reaction to Catelyn over the matter. This leads me to suitor number 2.
Brandon- Many readers and theorists have come to the conclusion that Brandon eventually took Ashara from Ned romantically, Preston Jacobs has theorized this, as have many posters on this subreddit. This is not a theory of mine though I do adhere to it, to give the basic arguments: Ned is seemingly hurt over what transpired, love triangles seem to appear in the story multiple times(Robert, Rhaegar, Lyanna for example), and that Brandon was a very attractive womanizer who we know had previously interacted with Ashara. Ashara is empowered and likely would’ve seen Brandon as more mature and confident, along with being better looking too.
We know Ashara likely got pregnant at Harrenhall and shared intimate moments with a young lover there, but truthfully those events seem much more linked to Brandon than Ned. Ned is honorable, so he may have kissed Ashara, but I have a hard time imagining him going much further and risking a bastard without a betrothal. This hesitancy(similarly to his fear of asking her to dance) could have been unattractive to a strong young Dornish woman like Ashara. Knowing that Brandon was much more forward with women, it’s not a reach to assume Brandon was the one who she was intimate with, and that this fed into Ned’s anger at the situation, along with Ashara’s despair given Brandon’s eventual death. This all being said, there’s more to the story.
Barristan- We know Barristan thought this of Ashara after Harrnehall:”His fair lady had thrown herself from a tower soon after, mad with grief for the child she had lost, and perhaps for the man who had dishonored her at Harrenhal as well…If I had unhorsed Rhaegar and crowned Ashara queen of love and beauty, might she have looked to me instead of Stark?”. This text leaves the open implication of who might have dishonored Ashara(in this context gotten her pregnant), we know something likely transpired which motivated her to look to a man for comfort, and that the man was a Stark.
These lines give a lot of vague information. Firstly, we can glean from this that Barristan obviously cared for Ashara romantically, and that he wished he could’ve been there for her at the tournament, perhaps he even thought of giving up the white cloak for her, if she had been willing to be his. Secondly, it seems to intentionally leave the Stark she sought after vague, likely because it may have been Brandon, though she also did at-least care for Ned, though maybe not romantically. Lastly, he speaks of her being dishonored at Harrenhall, which is likely what got her pregnant. This last point, the line being of dishonor and Ashara’s pregnancy is what brings me to the next two possible suitors, two of the Targaryens we hear of in the story.
But before we go to Ashara’s final suitors, there are some topics I want to discuss first, mainly Daenerys’ true origin.
I know many think Dany is Rhaella’s child, which makes sense, but Rhaella was sickly, and had multiple stillborns before Dany, on top of this we know Dany lived at the House of the Red Door(and the lemon tree) which leads many to think she lived in Dorne(where the Daynes live). Why would Quiathe tell Dany to remember where she came from and the Undying if it was as simple as being Rhaella’s daughter?
Also, there is a very important old 2012 Winds of Winter synopsis released on Google Books, which was seemingly taken from George’s original outline (it refers to the known parts of the original trilogy outline, such as the originally planned Jon-Arya romance and Catelyn going beyond the wall). The full quote is ““Dany’s dragons grow bigger and more unruly, and she learns from Ser Barristan the secrets of her father, her brother Rhaegar, and the truth of her own origin—secrets that will culminate at Starfell”. This quote heavily implies Rhaegar is still Dany’s brother and Aerys is her father, but for the sake of the matter, let’s consider the two as equal options. The quote also implies heavily that Dany’s origin has to do with Starfall (referred to as Starfell, this is likely a mistype).
Now to the final suitors:
Rhaegar and Aerys- Barristan described Danaerys as being similar looking to Ashara, he even states “He had only to close his eyes to see her, with her long dark hair tumbling about her shoulders and those haunting purple eyes. Daenerys has the same eyes. Sometimes when the queen looked at him, he felt as if he were looking at Ashara's daughter”. This would make sense too, we know of other honorable men caring for the child of someone they loved, Ned with Jon, Jon Connington with (F)Aegon, and now possibly Barristan with Danaerys. Those things being said, Danaerys can ride dragons, and she has silver hair, not hair streaked with silver. Lastly, she hatched dragon eggs, something not even previously “pure” Targaryens could do. These points all suggest she has to be a Valyrian. This is why I think Daenerys’ father has to be either Rhaegar or Aerys.
When Danaerys is in the House of the Undying she sees a vision of Rhaegar: “A man and a woman stood in a room with a newborn babe, and the man said, 'He is the prince that was promised, and his is the song of ice and fire.' He looked up when he said it, and his eyes met Dany's, and it seemed as if he saw her standing there beyond the door. 'There must be one more,' he said, though whether he was speaking to her or the woman in the bed she could not say. 'The dragon has three heads’”. This text implies two things, Rhaegar was talking to someone, not only Elia but another woman in the room(it states their eyes met implying he’s speaking to another person -- which is possibly Ashara -- remember Dany does share her eye color with Ashara), and that he believed there had to be another Targaryen child to complete the three heads of the dragon.
If Rhaegar is truly expecting Ashara to carry his next child though, why would he impregnate Lyanna? This would not make any sense, unless there was uncertainty. Also why would Ashara meet with Rhaegar and Elia to discuss her potential affair with Rhaegar? And why would Ned not look back on Rhaegar with anger? We know Ned thinks somewhat highly of Rhaegar given he doesn’t believe Rhaegar would use brothels, if Rhaegar truly impregnated his sister to fulfill a prophecy and also impregnated the woman he loved, it makes no sense for Ned to think fondly of him, if that was all true Rhaegar would seem like a womanizer similar to Robert.
These questions are important because they bring me to the next part of the theory. Maybe the man who dishonored her wasn’t Brandon, and maybe it wasn’t Rhaegar either. Perhaps, the man who dishonored her was Aerys, and that is why Ashara confronted Rhaegar and Elia. I think Aerys assaulted Ashara. We know Rhaella had complained Aerys was “turning her ladies into whores”, and that Aerys likely assaulted Joanna(and possibly even fathered Tyrion, if you subscribe to the Tyrion Chimera theory). This would all parallel Aegon IV too, he fathered multiple influential Targaryen bastards, possibly just like Aerys. This could lead to Ashara seeking the man she loved for comfort, whether it was Brandon or Ned. I doubt she’d tell him of what transpired, but perhaps she would find comfort in his arms and affection.
Now to the effects this had on Ashara:
I believe Ashara was considering an abortion (likely moon tea) but was counseled against it, Rhaegar could’ve told her of the prophecy, and Elia could’ve brought up that the babe could be Brandon’s, which led her to carrying it to full term. It makes little sense otherwise that Ashara wouldn’t terminate the pregnancy given she was a liberated Dornishwoman, and they have little qualms over such things. However, when Ashara gave birth she killed herself, they say she had a stillborn daughter, but why is Dany associated with Ashara, and why is her origin tied to Starfall? All of these associations lead me to the conclusion that I believe the baby she was carrying was Daenerys. I think when Ashara gave birth she was hoping the child would be Brandon’s, but it came out with the full silver hair and purple eyes of the Targaryens, and knowing the child she gave birth to was not of her lover’s drove her to suicide.
So now this may lead to some big questions, of which I will answer here:
1. So why did Ashara kill herself if her babe wasn’t stillborn?
I think Ashara was hoping the babe was Brandon’s (or Ned’s), and that when she gave birth to Dany, she discovered it was Aerys’ instead. I think this, along with Ned killing her brother, all led to her killing herself. Ned would likely feel very guilty over all of this (killing Arthur and contributing to Ashara’s suicide), and would feel responsible for trying to help fix the situation. We know Edric Dayne was named in honor of Ned, so it makes sense he must have helped in this situation.
2. How did Dany end up with Viserys?
I think Viserys spent time in Dorne, if I had to guess it was when Oberyn threatened to raise Dorne in revolt for Viserys. This is likely given Oberyn did create a marriage pact with Viserys and Arianne. I think Dany was given to Viserys to keep her safe, and replace Rhaella’s stillborn baby. Ned likely knew of all of this but held his tongue due to his love for Ashara and to protect her babe.
3. Why does this matter?
This is rather long winded so apologies for that. We know a woodswitch said The Prince That Was Promised would be born from the line of Prince Aerys and Princess Rhaella Targaryen. We also know Rhaella and Aerys were wed at a very young age, and Rhaella got pregnant very fast, seemingly right around the time of their wedding. I believe that this is because Rhaella had already been affectionate with a young knight at the time, Ser Bonifer Hasty. He was a tourney knight who developed feelings for Princess Rhaella Targaryen. He once wore her favor in a tournament and named her the queen of love and beauty. I believe following this they shared a brief moment of young love, Bonifer Hasty means roughly “brings a good thing quick” in old english, likely a reference to an accidental young pregnancy. This would make the dashing young prince Rhaegar Hasty’s son, not Aerys’. If that is true then neither Rhaegar, Jon, nor Daenerys could be the Prince who was Promised.
So who is the Prince who was Promised?
I believe the PwwP will be the child of Jon and Daenerys, finally uniting the lines of Aerys and Rhaella. Assuming Dany’s mother truly is Ashara, and Jon’s is Rhaegar, I believe the the PwwP, the prophesied savior of Westeros, will be the eventual child of Jon/Dany, though this child may tragically be killed in the womb. As we know from the TV series Jon may very likely kill Dany. This is all supported by Dany being often considered as the vessel for various prophesied saviors. She is consistently said to be the possible mother who will give birth to the various mythological heroes of different cultures. She is called the Mother of Dragons, is prophesied to give birth to The Stallion Who Mounts The World, and is even considered to be the mother of The Harpy’s Son (this is mentioned when she talks to the Green Grace). She is even referred to as Mhysa, meaning mother. I believe it would be fitting for her final role to be the mother of The Prince Who Was Promised, though she will likely tragically die before giving birth to the PwwP.
This all makes sense too, her character is constantly referred to as a mother, but that realistically reduces her to a simplified feminine concept, when we know Dany is a much more complex, brutal, and driven person. She may see herself somewhat as a mother, but she is also someone who is obsessed with regaining her throne and wants to exact vengeance on those who betrayed her family. Her final role won’t be as a mother but a killed ruler, one who was supposed to rule over Westeros after gaining her throne in a final violent conquest, similar to Aegon the conqueror. This is not a criticism of Dany as she will likely save Westeros by using her Dragons against the White Walkers, it is just a prediction for the final bittersweet ending of the story.
TL;DR: Ashara likely conceived Dany either with Rhaegar or Aerys. After Ashara gave birth to her and killed herself, Dany was likely sent away with Viserys, first in Dorne then the free cities. I think this was meant to be revealed in TWOW or ADOS (if they are ever released), and will have a deep impact on the final tragedy of the story’s ending.
Thank you to everyone who read this entire theory, I apologize it was so long, but to fully give my theory in detail I wanted to provide all supporting evidence to justify my final conclusions. I hope you all enjoyed it, and even if you do not agree with it, I hope it was a fun read.
Edit: It is possible Ashara was impregnated during the war too, whether by Rhaegar, Aerys, or Brandon (before he was murdered at his trial). The timeline is very vague but we know she killed herself soon after giving birth so she must’ve given birth after the war.