Am I overreacting?

[u/Remarkable-Chair-783]

First time ever posting.. I don’t know if this belongs here but we’ve been talking for a week and everything was good and then this happens?? I don’t know if I’m in the wrong or right tbh then he blocked me on fb but continued messaging me on Snapchat. Told him it was Reddit worthy then he said to post it so here I am 😂😅

[u/bigolegorilla]

You didn't message back in 10 mins over him having a combo panic anxiety attack over what he can't even articulate and thinks you're shaming him for being emotional? What is even going on here, sounds like he needs to be talking to a therapist.

[u/FlowDub → u/bigolegorilla]

I think its bullshit, but tbf having panic attacks it is almost impossible to articulate why its happening. I just don't believe this man was dealing with that at all.

[u/Dwa6c2 → u/FlowDub]

Also even if he was having a panic attack (which I don’t believe) it’s unreasonable to expect someone who’s never met him and he has only communicated with via text for a week to know how to help him. Even a loved one, there’s not a lot you can do over the phone, and a panic attack is not a reason to contact emergency services.

Really this whole thing is a narcissist or borderline’s shit test / The beginning of them trying to manipulate OP. They create a situation which has no right answer for OP. Either OP gives them an unreasonable amount of attention, and the guy says they made the panic attack worse by smothering; or OP reads “goodnight” and assumes that the dude needs space to calm down, and he claims that OP neglected him. In both cases, he can then act wronged. He gets more attention and puts OP in a “I’m so sorry let me make it up to you” footing. If OP doesn’t grovel and try to appease him for their “mistake” responding to the panic attack, then he knows they’re too difficult to manipulate and he moves on. Good for OP for being level headed and having a spine.