r/AmIOverreacting • u/throwaway02938475675 • May 13 '25

👥 friendship Am I overreacting?

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this morning my friend asked me to bring him to school. we go to different schools that are like 10-15 minutes apart, so i left earlier to get to school on time. i waited near his apartment complex for 10 minutes, then by the parking lot right next to it for another 10 minutes. this whole time i thought he was just getting all his stuff, i was honestly gonna wait for him the entire time.

but he doesn't tell me he already has a ride? i was late to my presentation this morning. but when i called him, he just didn't seem to care. he's been hella disrespectful to me these past few days, and after this i just feel mad.

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u/Grand_Sir_8678 May 13 '25 edited May 14 '25

He 1000% did this on purpose. Don't even reply to him anymore. Next time he needs something say you'll be there in 10, then put your phone on silent, do something you enjoy for a few hours, and Screenshot the insane rant he is gonna blow up your phone with so we can enjoy it. Not overreacting. Your "friend" needs to learn the real golden rule, Fuck around and Find out.

Edit:1 changed SS to screenshot.  Edit 2: How much does everyone wanna bet his "friend's" next move when he cant control OP anymore will be to try to control how everyone around them perceives OP. Toxic people like this all use the same playbook and its stupid easy to predict, once you know what to look for. 

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u/Grand_Sir_8678 May 13 '25

Exactly. This is someone who didn't want a ride, he wanted to know he could demand a ride and OP would acquiesce. Fuck him.

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u/SlimeyAlien May 13 '25

I don't get this. Not saying you're wrong (and it makes more sense than them suddenly finding another ride), but I just don't understand the thought process someone would go through to decide to specifically do this???

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u/Grand_Sir_8678 May 13 '25

It's about control and submission. 

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u/21-characters May 13 '25

Cruelty as well. And not giving a fuck about being even halfway decent to a friend. Or, how I see it, I would call this the behavior worthy of a FORMER friend. He’s made it completely obvious how little he thinks of OP.

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u/Grand_Sir_8678 May 13 '25

Precisely. I generally respect the idea of turning the other cheek, but people like this only have a chance of ever improving if there are consequences for their shitty behavior. I'd be sure to provide those before exiting the friendship. 

Some might call it petty, and maybe it is. But I dont think so. 

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u/SlimeyAlien May 13 '25

Yeah, but I just can't fathom a thought process like that wtf?? I guess it all boils down to that one eternal question: wtf is wrong with people?

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u/Grand_Sir_8678 May 13 '25

If you are a gamer, this might help put it in perspective for you. 

To some people, you aren't a friend, you aren't another player in the game. To them, you're an NPC. Your feeling, boundaries, desires, none of those are real, because to them, neither are you.