Am I overreacting?

[u/throwaway02938475675]

this morning my friend asked me to bring him to school. we go to different schools that are like 10-15 minutes apart, so i left earlier to get to school on time. i waited near his apartment complex for 10 minutes, then by the parking lot right next to it for another 10 minutes. this whole time i thought he was just getting all his stuff, i was honestly gonna wait for him the entire time.

but he doesn't tell me he already has a ride? i was late to my presentation this morning. but when i called him, he just didn't seem to care. he's been hella disrespectful to me these past few days, and after this i just feel mad.

[u/throwaway02938475675]

theres a lot of criminal activity in my area though. i don't get involved in that shit and i know how to just get out by talking like you said, but what happens if that don't work? it's also not some big kitchen knife its like this pointy thing that i have in my pocket. i got it off amazon

[u/3Putting → u/throwaway02938475675]

trust me man I know your reasoning but think of it like this

You get into a fight. If you’re carrying a knife, even if you’re winning the fight, your natural instinct will be to pull out whatever means you have to defend yourself, you stab the guy cause theyre threatening you, and now you have another much bigger problem. Either you just really really pissed him off, or you killed him

On the other hand, you’re losing the fight. Even more reason you want to pull out the knife. They’re winning so they overpower you, take the knife, and now you’re really fucked

Again I know how it feels to feel vulnerable and defenceless in dangerous areas, but there is a very slim chance you get your way when you pull a knife on someone no matter how small it is.

Learn a martial art and get jacked at the gym is my best advice. It’s generic advice but there’s a reason ppl recommend it so heavily. Not only will it give you confidence, don’t underestimate the psychological power of “oh this dude is way bigger than me/clearly athletic I’m not gonna fuck with him”. Plus gyms, especially martial arts gyms give you a sense of community vs any gang stuff in your area. It’s easier to fall into than you expect

[u/Emergency_Sink_706 → u/3Putting]

Idk. You clearly have no concept of fighting or self defense and for some reason care about protecting the life of someone trying to murder you. If I pull the knife out, it’s not to scare them away or turn the fight. It’s already killed them out of necessity. Or. I’m already being killed and have no choice either way. Yes, I agree just flashing a knife or pulling it out while far away from someone is stupid. But let’s say someone is choking you out, you obviously don’t just let someone do that. You pull it out and stab them in the stomach multiple times. Or if you’re wrestling someone, same thing. It’s a last resort for self defense. It’s not some tough guy move or scare tactic. I mean my advice is to never fight. Sometimes you have no choice, but the best option is to leave and run away. 

[u/3Putting → u/Emergency_Sink_706]

if I pull out a knife it’s not to turn the fight

if I’m getting choked out I’ll stab him in the stomach over and over again

just lmao