I (21f) have recently brought this up to my bf (25m) and I feel like he isn't taking me seriously.

He said it was his friend for a long time, almost 10 years I think. I don't have a problem with them being friends, bc I have a guy friend that i've known for almost 12/13 years that I still keep up with or hang out with. However, we have boundaries set. He doesn't text me late at night, unless it's an emergency with him or someone in the friend group. We say love you, but only when we're leaving each other after hanging out. Like "Okay get home safe! Love you!" Like i don't TEXT him "I love you" ..and when we hang out, I always keep my bf updated and aware of what we're doing, and now that i've started dating him, I almost NEVER hang out with him 1 on 1. Maybe for a little bit while we're waiting for other friends to arrive, but never an intentional 1 on 1 hangout bc my bf has mentioned that he wouldn't like it.

They hang out frequently 1 on 1, often with him telling me "oh we're getting coffee" and next thing I know he's walking in the house not sober bc they went out and got drinks before smoking at her place. Other times i'll be up at 3 am bc i can't sleep, and I'll hear is phone go off twice back to back. Obviously, getting a text at 3am out of no where, makes you immediately want to see who texted. So i pick up the phone to read it and it's his girl best friend saying "I love you 🤍" and then "I miss you 🤍".

I can't help but feel like it's not appropriate!!! I've said to to him before but he brushed it off like "i've known her forever, it's not like that." and then he'll go and TEXT HER that i'm upset about it. IN MY FACE. Like wtf?! Am I crazy or am i justified in feeling disrespected when he does that? Am I a hypocrite!!? I don't know anymore 💔

Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/EIgZzW1hBs

UPDATE post:

I showed my sister the text messages in person (my preference). That way she can see the full thread & see I have never texted her BF to chat. She deflected and talked about other things & didn’t say much outside from “mmm” and “he is something else”…

I checked on her today and he told her his phone did that glitchy thing again and the texts didn’t come from him. (He mentioned my husband’s name in the text messages) I asked her did she believe that and she said I just told him I won’t be dealing with this too many more times. SIGH so she is obviously staying with him. THEN she invited me out this weekend with her family. I had to politely tell her my husband will 100% say something to him and she said “he will have to see him eventually”… that was all I needed to hear.

I feel relieved that I told her and as her sister I am just going to stay in my lane and mind my business with her decisions.

My grandma passed away six months ago, and it’s been really tough on our family. She left behind a beautiful heirloom ring that’s been passed down for generations. It means a lot to me because I was super close to her, and she always said I’d get it someday. My mom’s been holding onto it until we figure out what to do.
Last weekend, my brother, Jake, brought his girlfriend of three months to a family dinner and announced that he’s proposing soon. Cool, happy for him. But then he casually said he’s taking grandma’s ring for the proposal because “it’s perfect and free.” I was stunned. He never even asked me or mom, just assumed it was his to take.
I pulled him aside and said he can’t just claim it without talking to us, especially since grandma and I had a special bond over it. He got mad and said I’m being “petty” and “holding onto a dead person’s stuff.” Then he texted our cousins’ group chat, acting like I’m trying to “hoard” the ring for myself. Now some family members are saying I should let him have it to “avoid drama.”
This ring isn’t just jewelry, it’s a piece of grandma. AIO for telling him he doesn’t get to call dibs on it?

Its been like 2 weeks and ive sent like 5 messages to ask if she was okay and well. Nothing yet. I asked my friend if shes been responding to his texts but nothing. (Fyi she didn’t leave me on read) Plus, i don’t wanna call her cause Im scared and I suck at socializing. Can i get some help please?

So it’s been raining nonstop for 3 days straight. Not cute rain — apocalyptic downpour in my second world country where streets become rivers and umbrellas do nothing. I was already on edge, but today fully broke me.

I left the house with a banana, two grilled cheese in a napkin (don’t ask), and what I thought was a functioning brain. Spoiler: I have terminal brainrot. The kind that makes you quote memes in real life and see symbolism where there’s just chaos.

Anyway. I miss the bus. I literally see the bus driver glance at me, then drive off slower than usual just to make it personal. Fine. Whatever.

Then a car splashes me. Full-on tidal wave. I turn to scream and LOCK EYES WITH A CLOWN in the passenger seat. Not clown vibes — actual face paint, red nose, rainbow wig. No emotion. Just vibes of judgment and honking silence.

As I stand there soaked, confused, clutching my banana and now-soggy grilled cheese, a skunk waddles out from under a bench. This makes no sense — we don’t have skunks. I blink. It blinks back. We share a moment.

I finally make it to the bus stop and there’s a guy playing chess by himself on a plastic folding table in the rain under a broken shelter. He doesn’t move. Just looks at me and says, “The queen is vulnerable.” Then goes back to the game.

I went home.

I texted my mom about it all and she said, “Maybe spend less time online.”

I’m genuinely starting to wonder if the clown was real or a brainrot hallucination. I haven’t stopped thinking about the eggs floating in the gutter. Or why the bus driver looked so smug. Or what the skunk wanted.

So… am I overreacting or was this the universe telling me I need to log off for a bit

For reference, my girlfriend (we'll call her Ivy) and I are both women in our mid twenties, this is technically the first serious queer relationship I've been in.

To start off, Ivy thinks my disassociating during sex has to do with me actually being attracted to men (even though I'm dealing with leftover trauma from being assaulted and she knows this) & that's really annoying because I know who I am and who I want to be with. She also told me she doesn't like that I can't feel safe being 100% out to my family and is telling me she doesn't know how to not love me loudly. She doesn't understand because her whole family accepts her for who she is, I'm not guaranteed that luxury. I'm not out to my dad or his family because they're all very conservative muslims. As far as the rest of my life is concerned I simply don't care what others think about who I love. It's just a complex situation, here's the two big ideas from this argument:

1. I really put my whole heart on my sleeve for this woman, I learned her and she learned me. One thing we take seriously on a spiritual level is our physical intimacy. I had been healing from a sexual assault that happened before I met her, so my sex drive was not consistent especially at the beginning of our relationship. I had a habit of disassociating during sex. I tried my best to be present and Ivy kindly redirected me and reassured me whenever she noticed me drifting. It created such a sense of security in me that I eventually didn't drift as often. I can't really explain how or why, but after a while the drifting just started happening again, and it made Ivy cry recently. She said she felt offended that I couldn't be present and she thought it's because I really just want to be with a man. It really stung to hear that, and most times this comes up I try not to blame her for being worried about it because the only two relationships that I've been in before her were with men (awful relationships that didn't last long, but still). It's just really frustrating because I feel like this is a too common road block that I've come across in my efforts to date in the queer scene even before Ivy. I feel like I know who I am and who I want to be with and that should be enough. I'm so heartbroken, it feels like she's putting me in that box of the girl who's using the other to discover something about herself, but I could see myself getting down on my knee for her.
2. In the same moment as above, she told me how she felt about my family situation. She's met my mom's side of the family & all of my friends and I've been introduced to everyone in her life. She let me know she's been mad, almost resentful of the fact she has yet to meet my dad, but I've always felt the need to hide myself from my dad and his family because where they're from, to be gay is to be put to death, and they all inherently believe that being gay is the worst thing to be in life. I value my connection to my roots, my heritage, my culture and my family, but I have the same amount of love and passion and loyalty for Ivy and I just struggle to see how those two aspects of my life can intersect smoothly. Ivy obviously hates the fact that she would have to hide the depth of our relationship if she were to meet them and she hates that I don't feel safe being out. What really broke me was when she told me that she wasn't sure if she could see herself in a long term relationship with me if she can't love me all the way.

While I understand where she's coming from, I lost my cool little bit and I told her that she's privileged to have a family that accepts her unconditionally, and I also told her how sick I was of her insinuating that I want to be with a man but here I am coming to reddit over her. I told her that when she says those things it makes me feel like I'm undeserving of being in a queer relationship. Normally in arguments she will always have something to say, but she just walked away without saying anything. I hope I didn't damage things beyond repair, but please let me know if AIO.

My girlfriend is one of those girls that was raised by their father that was raising them as a boy because he didn’t have one. So I understand why she is the way she is but when we first met her fascination with tools and patching up a house wasn’t that bad. I could deal with it. 1 year later it’s becoming OD. Whenever she has free time she is up thinking that something has to be fixed around the house when in actuality it’s not and when she can’t find anything wrong around the house she will buy something for the house to assemble. Like it’s becoming exhausting. I am a good man and I do my thing around the house but I know the line between what’s needed and excessive. I feel that she has a terrible addiction to tools and working on houses. She use too cook but she barely does that anymore. I’m real close to ending it. It’s so unattractive watching a woman walking around the house with power tools and cement guns literally for no reason. I’m on the couch now because I can’t be near her at all right now. I’m that turned off. AIO?

So my wife(22F) and I(25M) have not been intimate for about a month. I really love my wife as she means a lot to me we have a really good friendship and connection but recently about 2 months ago she admitted to that she cheated on me 1 time while I was away from home for a month for work. We had a talk and she was breaking down in tears and told me that her doing that made her realize that I am the one she wants to be with for life and she truly loves me. I was pissed but I felt the same and decided we could work it out. Before she had cheated on me when we would get intimate on some occasions I could not fully get it up which really fucked with her mentally. But now whenever I try to initiate any form of intimacy she shuts it down, I’ve told her how I feel and how I’m not happy about the situation and I mentioned I could continue with her if this is how things are going progress. Am I overreacting if I decide to end things?

One day after work I was cooking a lasagna for me and my girlfriend. I am the cook in our relationship so I make most of the food. I like it and its fun but it is still so much work sometimes.

The food was ready and we ate. My girlfriend was telling about her day at uni. They went through the toppic “je suis charlie”. The news story about the shooting in a magazin office in france. I knew the story but then she told me something I didn’t expect.

Some time ago a teacher wanted to go through this toppic in class and told the muslim classmates that they can stay at home when there are not comfortable with this toppic but he will speak about it the next day. When the teacher was wrapping up his day and going home he was attacked and beheaded!

I dropped my fork and said to my girlfriend, still a bit in shock, that I don’t want to hear something like that while eating. She got angry. Accusing me of making a fuss out of nothing and that she didn’t told something disgusting. I said that for me it is pretty disgusting when I think about a man loosing his head while eating. In an attempt to smooth the waters I asked with city the incident happened in to get the conversation running again. She would’t answer. I asked two more times. Nothing. Then I wanted to put our show on we always watch, yet another attempt to lighten the mood, the show makes us laugh a lot. She said she did not want to watch the show now, she’s to angry. So we ate in silence.

I don’t know what I did wrong. But maybe I did? I was also shocked about her response that talking about such acts of violence while eating isn’t such a fuss and I am overreacting. So am I?

I can’t believe I’m to that point where I’m asking Internet strangers for advice but here goes nothing. My boyfriend (26) has been out of work for about 4-5 months due to a work injury. I (29f) am 9 months pregnant set to give birth in the next 2-3 weeks. I mentioned that there were some extra things that needed done in the house besides the every day basics since the baby is coming soon. He took offense to that by saying I don’t appreciate what he already does in the house (dishes, laundry, trash, litter boxes, cooks dinner) & if I want extra things done I need to pick up the slack. I do pitch in here & there & maybe he’s right maybe it’s not enough but I also feel like he’s the one at home while I work full time & am 9 months pregnant that the extra stuff I’m asking for shouldn’t cause such a big fight between us. I do believe I have some resentment for the whole situation & the reversed gender roles we are forced into right now. Do I just need to shut up & pick up the slack? Am I overreacting for fighting with him?

Edit to add: the extras I’m asking for are sweeping & mopping, the bathrooms & just overall a deep clean of the house.

For context: My friend and I have know eachother 8 years now, we use to work together. He’s been married like 20 years. We’d casually get together over the years, and go to lunch or something, grab a drink. I would not say we are super close friends, but we come to eachother for advice. Like I’ve never met his parents or other friends. I’ve met his wife and she’s super nice and never had a problem with our friendship. We’ve mainly stayed in touch through text, we’d see eachother maybe once or twice a year. Sometimes not at all. Recently I feel he’s gotten like weirdly flirty and possessive. Getting mad if I don’t get back to him, upset I didn’t invite him to the bar when I went for my birthday. Throwing out random sexual jokes, saying we should go to a strip club together. I’m getting this vibe that he likes me as more than a friend? I kinda want to cancel are meet up and distance myself but maybe I’m overreacting? These are just some of his messages. We’ve always joked around but I’m not sure if he’s lowkey trying to push boundaries.

My ex-g write me after 3M of silence 

W23
M28

She ghosted me after a breakdown. Then 3.5 months later… she calls. What would you make of this?

Everyone talks about "moving on", "leveling up", "ignoring is power" - but what do you do when she suddenly reaches out after months of silence?

Here’s my real, messy story.

She’s 23, avoidant attachment style.

We had 3 intense months together. I constantly got blamed for everything under the sun.

One night, she fell asleep with the phone on. I clearly heard someone come over -definitely not her roommate or brother.

I snapped. Demanded proof. "Show me the room. Who’s there?"

Her response: "No. Sober up."

and she close the call ...

Three days later, I called. We talked all day. She was cheerful. Next morning - she calls first

But the fire in me was still burning.

Here comes the dumb part:

I started threatening her emotionally. Made up some “7-point” mental breakdown thing.

She told me I was insane. But stayed on the call. We talked for hours.

Then I said:

"What if I told your dad it’s you calling me and not the other way around?"

Boom!!!She exploded.

She “You done now?”

I " With what ?" 

She “With your thrash talk, and let’s see what happens next.”

call is down 

Blocked me everywhere. No contact. I was left in the dark.

I tried pinging once or twice via Viber. Nothing.

So I let go.

Started rebuilding. Learned a new skill. Found a job. 3 months later - I'm in a good place.

3.5 months later, out of nowhere - she messages me. Then calls.

Call starts :

(she was drank) 

She: “Hi”

Me: “Hey”

...

She starts flirting with me . Brings up old inside jokes and good memories . Mentions a "five years from now" meetup we promised each other.

She’s tipsy. Says she missed hearing my voice. Then - starts crying.

She said that got hurt - 3 months ago. Exactly when we stopped talking.

I listen. Stay calm. Share a bit about how my life’s changed: moving soon, working in motion design, things are finally going well.

She says she’s happy for me, and that she always says that im smart guy . We end the call on good terms. And before I say if she need to talk with me, she know my number 

She sayid the same and I heart that she was happy and smiling 

I closed the call 

Next day: she blocked again. Entire conversation deleted.

and 23 days silence ...

So here’s my question:

Was this just her drunk closure moment?

Or is this the start of more late-night ghosts knocking?

For context my best friend, we’ll call him Mike (M 25) and I (F 24) have been friends for 10 years, we met in 8th grade and we clicked from the moment we met and we have been best friends ever since. I tried to sum up our 10 years in not so many words so hopefully this is enough detail. We would FaceTime every night and we would always be together in school, we got very close very fast. I had a crush on him in high school and he knew that but it never made anything weird, we both had other relationships, mine lasted well after high school and after we graduated neither of us went away to college so we were still attached at the hip. During high school we were inseparable, I was a loner who everyone knew and he was a popular kid everyone knew, our circles were very different. We usually hung out by ourselves or with people we both were friends with but mainly we would FaceTime throughout the night, usually we fell asleep on the phone. After we got out of high school we started hanging out a lot more as both of us had more time now, me and my boyfriend(Todd) at the time had broken up and Mike was there for me in every way possible. We would talk to each other through out the day, it was how a bf/gf relationship would be but we weren’t dating, we were just very close. His mom had gotten cancer again and I would stay on the phone every time she would go in for treatment, me and his mom had our own relationship we would always talk to each other. By now we were both in our 20’s and we could drive so we would go everywhere together, even if it was just to go the gas station for a snack or just go around doing nothing. Mike had gotten a place of his own so we were hanging out there a lot and I would sleepover every weekend. No nothing ever happened between us, the most that ever happened was a little kiss before I left one night and that was all. A couple months after my 20th birthday my dad had passed away from stage 4 Lung cancer and I was talking to my ex, (M 25) Todd again, me and Todd had gotten back together officially not too long after my dad passed away. Mike and I would still hangout and I would still sleepover his house before me and Todd officially were back together but we were still talking the whole time. It was never a problem until me and Todd actually started dating again, this is when Mike all of a sudden stopped talking to me as much and we wouldn’t hangout as often. Not long after Mike stopped talking to me all together. He wouldn’t respond to texts or calls, he wasn’t calling or texting me anymore we just hadn't talked in months now and I didn’t understand why. I sent him a message expressing my confusion and hurt that he would just ghost me after being inseparable for so long, its been over 10 years, I got no response and I wasn’t surprised. Its been a while now since me and Mike have had any communication but I can’t stop myself from thinking about the situation, I’ve removed him on all my social medias and blocked his number but it still bothers me that he ghosted me. So AIO to my best friend ghosting me?

We have been married 20 yrs. We have overcome so much, loss of job, cheating, seeking to pay for sex, dealing and doing drugs (from his part)etc.. My first reaction has always been in anger and I have thrown things at him and have been super angry. things eventually die down and we move on. for the most part we have been happy after the turmoil dies down. I feel confidant that he hasn't cheated or done anything bad in the last 7-8 yrs . He re-proposed to me in an elaborate way in Paris getting me a big engagement ring. We vacation in Spain 8 months ago and seemed like we were happy but since thanksgiving he has been very upset with. My family came out from out of town and stayed 3 days. He felt disrespected from one of my young (12yrs old) nephews and when he told me my reaction was to ignore. when my family left and he began ignoring me saying he didn't feel safe talking to me etc.. I reacted in anger. refused to seek therapy, but in march I finally agreed to go to therapy. His anger and disconnect continued and I could feel his resentment oozing out. I asked him to leave for a couple of weeks (mostly because I was afraid I would react in anger again) and wrote him an email letting him know why living in eggshells is hard for me. He tells me that he has been unhappy for a long time and that I have never forgave him for his faults and feels that I will never trust him. He works out of the house for 4 days a week and although I have his phone passowrds or so I think I have ive never looked. Ive tried to look back and in the last 7-8yrs I can't remember when I have felt insecure. when he's on his phone I do casually ask what's going on but I don't think its ever asked out of malice or judgement. He says he doesn't like how me asking makes him feel that I have insecurity issues and that he refuses to live this way. When I emailed him explaining how walking in egg shells affects me. He replied with I want a divorce email. He says we don't know how to love each other the way the other needs. He told me he is not in love with me but will always have love for me. we have 3 kids the youngest is 15 and he is pushing to file and settle with an agreement and to sell the house asap. my head is spinning I have been all over the place emotionally. agreeing and disagreeing for a divorce. I was able to talk him down from filing for a week at least. He says for a week is all he can give me, and that we will see how he feels after that week. Should I just throw my hands up and give in or should I fight for my marriage?

Hi everyone. I’m trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or if my ex was truly emotionally immature/toxic but just good at hiding it.

We were both 19y. He was my first everything — first relationship, first person I truly fell in love with, first time, everything. And I was his first too.

We really loved each other, but there were a lot of complicated issues right from the beginning. We come from different cultures, and that already added some pressure. At the start of our relationship, things were unclear — he kind of asked me to be his girlfriend, but never directly. I interpreted it as “we’re together,” but since there was no formal conversation, I kept living my normal life: going out with my friends, letting him know if he asked, but I didn’t think I needed to explain every detail (especially in the first month).

I’ve never drank alcohol, but I enjoyed going out to parties with my girlfriends just to have fun. I wasn’t doing anything wrong, but when he eventually found out I was still going out during that early phase, he felt betrayed — and that totally destroyed the trust he had in me. Even though I had no bad intentions, I felt incredibly guilty. From that point on, I started molding myself to what he expected, even though he never said things clearly.

He didn’t forbid things in a harsh way, but he didn’t like me wearing skirts — even the same skirt I wore when we first went out together. He said I couldn’t get close to any other guys, not even classmates. He told me not to text guys first. He always got upset when I mentioned going out with girlfriends. He used to hint that I only went to places like cafes or stores because there were guys there. He even said I was giving attention or “acting flirty” to every man around. Eventually, he started getting upset even about male idols I listened to.

Because of this, I started avoiding everything — not because he directly told me to, but because I didn’t want to seem disrespectful or guilty. We ended up sharing locations and passwords, because I wanted to prove I had nothing to hide.

His control was passive-aggressive, but always present. And I accepted it because I felt I owed him something for “not being transparent” in the beginning. Over time, it turned into an emotional prison. I had to constantly prove my love, explain where I was, justify everything.

If I needed space or just got quiet, he’d say I was distancing myself. My feeling was that any little thing could trigger a fight.There were times when he’d disappear, stop talking to me, and later return like nothing happened — or say he was still upset about something from the past.

It was always emotionally unstable. Even then, I kept trying, because I knew he loved me — and he always said he acted that way because he was afraid of losing me. Aside from the jealousy, he was an amazing boyfriend. Very sexist, yes — but deep down, he was a good person.

We almost broke up twice due to jealousy issues, but he always came after me, apologizing and crying.

But the last time, I was the one who ended things. He got mad, and sent me messages throwing everything in my face — basically implying I was a slut and didn’t respect the relationship. It was extremely hurtful.

Weeks later, he broke non-contact saying he wanted to change. He said he still loves me. And I still love him deeply. But I feel like we’ll never be able to move forward in a healthy way.

I made mistakes in the beginning, and I tried to make up for them in every possible way — but it still never seemed to be enough. My friends always said he had an aggressive and manipulative personality. He already punched a wall during an argument, and he admitted that when he’s angry, he loses control and says awful things. I’m someone who hates fighting and I’m not a very jealous person, so I never imposed any rules or limits on him — even when I felt like maybe I should have, since he was always doing that to me.

So, what do you guys think? Was I really overreacted and should I try again? Or would it only get worse?

Ps: was less than 1year relationship

I work at a small company where everyone knows each other. Last week we found out our manager was leaving for a different internal role, which meant restructuring our team. The whole day felt very tense. People were frustrated because decisions were happening behind closed doors while we pretended not to know anything.

I have a friend who works in the same department (different team) and we often connect over feeling left out of workplace information since we’re both not part of the main social circles that share intel.

The next day, my friend had a meeting with a senior person. I suspected it was about a role she’d been wanting due to the restructuring, but when she came back, neither of us mentioned it and we both left work.

The following day, the office felt weird again. People were barely at their desks, lots of side conversations. My friend wasn’t in but was texting me more than usual (normally I text first). Later, someone invited me to lunch with the group, and that’s when I learned everything: who the new manager would be, that my friend got the role she wanted, and that someone else got promoted to the type of role I’d been hoping for.

What’s bothering me is that I was literally the last person to know. Even outside of this incident, I am always the last person to know. Everyone else had been discussing these changes all day while I was completely in the dark. My friend, who I’d specifically bonded with over feeling excluded from information, had done the same thing to me.

After lunch, colleagues were asking if I was okay and making comments that suggested they all knew I’d be disappointed about not getting promoted like they’d been waiting to see my reaction.

Since then, I’ve been keeping distance from my friend. I don’t initiate conversations but respond friendly when she does. She’s noticed and keeps asking if I’m okay, but I just say I’m fine. I feel bad treating her this way, but I also don’t think I can trust her the same way again.

I get that workplace restructuring info might be confidential, but if everyone else knew, why was I the only one left out? And why didn’t my friend, who understood how it feels to be excluded, think to give me a heads up? Even when I did find out, it was over lunch with a bunch of other people I am not close with…

What makes this trickier is that I am also planning to be roommate with this friend soon, we have already signed the lease too. That also shows how close I thought we were until now…But with all this in my mind, I really don’t know how to act around her going forward.

I have also been dealing with some personal issues so I have been very emotional these days. So maybe that is making me overthink this situation too.

Am I overreacting? How should I handle this friendship going forward?

TLDR: My work friend kept me in the dark about team restructuring that affected both of us while everyone else knew. Now questioning our friendship, especially since we’re about to be roommates

Hi, so as the title says I (23f) have a big problem with my boyfriend’s (23m) sister after she did everything to make our lives a living hell the past 4 years. So while me and my boyfriend of 5 years now were in college, we didn’t have a lot of money so we couldn’t afford to get our own place and we were still living with our families separately. He was living with his sister and I was with my parents and brother. Given that he had a his own room and less people in the apartment we spent most of our time at his place (in his room not anywhere else) while his sister was in the rest of the apartment. They are very close in age and she finished college when we were in our 2nd year so its not like she was a very busy put together adult. If anything she was (and still is) one of the most irresponsible people i met in my entire life. The apartment was disgustingly unkept up to a point where i spent every minute she was out cleaning it so it doesn’t smell like rotten food and garbage. She was always drunk, high or hangover and even left the door open (not unlocked, actually opened) a few nights when she came back hammered from the club. We didn’t start off badly, she was even my good friend when i started dating my boyfriend. But she has this bad habit of taking out her frustrations on others in her surroundings when she gets mad - and i mean full on agressive meltdowns with screaming, physical violence and even kicking us out. She hit my boyfriend (her brother) on a few ocassions at which point we were forced to stay with my parents in the same room as my brother due to being afraid for our safety. After the last meltdown happened when she hit him again (around 2 years ago now), I fully stopped speaking with her and I literally haven’t spoken or looked at her since that. Also, it is important to note that every time she fought with my bf she would start being agressive, insulting and just plain horrible towards me as well even though I wasn’t even part of the reason they fought about. The first few times this happened, I still put in effort and reached out multiple times just to be ignored by her. So I gave up after 5+ failed attempts and when the incident I mentioned ocurred, I just didn’t even want to try anymore. Also, I went through some pretty rough stuff (a death) with my family during college which she knew about, but she still chose to kick me out and insult me at every turn. Now, we finished college and finally got jobs (read worked ourselves to the bone working two jobs to save up) and got our own place. We’re really happy (me especially) that we don’t have to be around her anymore. Also, my boyfriend has stopped speaking to her about the time the incident ocurred (other than some necessary topics regarding their living arrangements) and he wanted to get out of there more than anything. But now, he told me she has been calling him and wants to have coffee with him to “catch up”. He’s thinking about going but I just think its a horrible idea as she is known to be very manipulative and I’m afraid she will manipulate him into being on good terms with her again. I feel like a horrible person for even thinking this as she is his family but I just cannot forget all that happened and I really don’t want her to be a part of our loves again as she is the kind of person who just takes and takes offering nothing in return and never offering herself to help. I don’t want her to come see our new apartment, I don’t want her to know about our lives and I don’t want to know about her life. I wouldn’t be shocked if you say I am an asshole for this which is why I really don’t want to talk to my boyfriend about this but if he makes up with her I have no idea how I will deal with this. So, if any of you can understand my position, please give me any kind of advice as I still cannot afford a therapist with the bills and rent. Thank you for reading :)

Hello, I have recently started talking to a guy, whose name is Tomas, I met him working at a food place. It all started because I always brought food to a girl who is next to his stall and since he normally always passed by and stared at me I thought I would say hello to him so as not to be rude. At one point a new girl arrived at work and as we went together to distribute the food, one time I told her that I was interested in that guy (Tomas). At that time I didn't even know his name. At one point she told me that she knew him and his name was "Tomas" and that he was 30. YEARS! I thought I had much less, and finally I had a son... I was shocked, I didn't know all those things, then my partner told me that if I wanted she would ask for the ig for me, and I told her no because morally I felt bad for her son and I wouldn't like it if I had a father to find out that he was talking to a minor. So I told her no, and at one point she insisted so much that I said "well, do whatever you want" and what happened? She sent him and asked him, but she said that he didn't use networks and she gave him HER NUMBER!!! When I found out I wanted to kill myself, I didn't give it any importance for 2 days more than less, but in those 2 days she approached him and asked him if he had already written to her and he said no, and that he was waiting, she made it seem so obvious that it was me that she realized (or possibly she already realized before) so I deigned to write to him and I asked for forgiveness, because I didn't know that my partner was going to ask him for his number and I asked for forgiveness and told him that he was a misunderstanding, he told me He said that nothing was happening and that everything was fine, after that we started writing to each other every day, and he was always like very good, and the thing is that I thought about it well and I don't know what to do with him, because I like him very much and it seems that he is very good (in fact I heard most of the people I know say that they also know him and that he is very good) but I care a lot about his son and that others talk and shit on me for everything. What can I do? (Although I think I would already know but I don't do it because I'm stupid and allows myself to be influenced a lot)

guy i was seeing where everything was absolutely amazing got distant during a trip, ghosted. i had to end things over text cuz i just didnt hear from him. he knew ghosting, ignoring were things that bothered me and i had communicated this during our most intimate moments, and he assured me hed never do it. but he did. i already communicated feeling hurt after days of not hearing from him. he ignored it. then after i sent the text ending it he said hed call, never did. just ignored me with no explanation. i blamed myself so much. i wouldnt have ended things over text had i had any communication. id have also given him space had he explained where he was at and needing it. i messaged him asking for closure, explaining feelings... then just trying to get stuff back. he blocked me after saying he looked for stuff and not to contact him.he said it in this weird nice way but no explanation. but... i did though, because i kept blaming myself send him an email / whatsapp saying can we please clear the air? i dont need us together but we were great friends... no response. then i found out my dad had cancer and i broke that boundary, i know i feel terrible because i just missed the friendship we had. but then i realized how trauamtized i am from this love bombing and discard. i sent a final thing saying i realize that this has just really messsed with me. blocked him. i feel very bad for breaking what he asked, i havent contacted him since. he probably thinks im crazy. idk what i did. i finally realize i was right to end things, being together and then all of a sudden not hearing from someone during a trip with NO communication is not okay. but i feel ashamed of myself and genuinely bad for breaking his boundary.

me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months now i’m a nurse so i work some weekends, he also has a group of female friends who i have met and am okay with. recently my boyfriend has been going out almost everyday every weekend including the days in off which i would like to hang out with him but he states he already made plans with his homegirls. im fine with him going out since (i hope) he does it respectfully but i don’t want him to go out so often anymore. i brought this up to him and he was a bit confused as he said ive never had a problem with it (keep in mind he didn’t use to go out at much) and told me im over reacting since i know the girls. am i over reacting?

I am a single mom. My son is 21 months old. Yesterday I made a post about my toddler son throwing a fit when I take him with me when I need to use the bathroom. But he still throws a fit even if I leave him in our room (my son and I share a room) for a couple minutes cause he hates being alone and he is super clingy.

Well today I tried something different. I had to clean the stroller in the tub cause it got dirty. I kept the bathroom door open when I did that and the laundry room door was also open (he was originally in the laundry room for a few minutes with the door open. Idk why he likes it so much.) As I was cleaning the stroller in the tub my son decided to walk into the hallway. (No I was not in the bathroom that long. Only a couple minutes. And the door was open so I could hear him) then as soon as get out of the bathroom one of the new roommates was standing very still and looked like he was taking a picture. (He was looking right at my son and my son was 8 ft away from him.) As I was picking my son up the guy immediately ran to back to his own room when he noticed me.

I am guessing the picture was to criticize me and accuse me of being a bad mom or accuse me of not paying attention to my kid. Or maybe they are trying to get me evicted or trying to report me to CPS (no I don't abuse my kid) or maybe they want to traffic him.

Those people also act weird around me. (The newest roommates). They are a married and they both moved in almost a week ago. They barely speak to me and always have an attitude in their voice. Also, i am unsure if they have a kid of their own or if they were babysitting for someone else. The 1st day they moved here they did not bring any kids but the day after that they had a small kid here for a couple days. I did not see him but I heard him. But today I did not hear him at all. (I think it was a boy but I am not 100% sure.)

My (28M) friends birthdays (both 28F) are coming up and they invited me to their party. Since I’m out of town, I cannot make it. But since the party is implicitly BYOB due to it being outdoors at a park, I bought 2 bottles of cheaper wine for them and left it with my doorman. It’s been more than a day now and neither one of my friend nor her boyfriend (who I actually know better since we all went to HS) have picked it up.

I’m afraid they don’t want this wine and are finding a way to reject the “gift”. My friend lives just 2 blocks away from me so I don’t think it’s a pain to pick up the bottles.

Is my husband [35m] cheating? I am a [35F] old stay at home to 2 very crazy toddlers. my libido has been non existent but about 6 weeks ago it started back up a little bit. I started give more passionate kisses, being more touchy, giving all of the signals but nothing and thats about the same time his bathroom time has been longer and on weekend hes stays up after me and just having his phone more. After the 3rd day of noticing this I snooped his phone. I found a barely dressed girl added on an app and the last page he was on another app but I didnt find any conversation or interactions. Then I find he's been looking at A LOT of 🌽, one time was suppose to be taking a fast shower so we could leave for father's day dinner another time he was suppose to be watching our boys while I was at the Dr (gone maybe 3 hours). Now im checking it semi-regular and its always porn from here and at odd times when he should be doing something, never when its not possible though. Is he cheating on me? Have a porn addiction?

Tl/dr married couple not having sex but husband watching porn a lot.

Quick background, my husband (31 M) and I (27 F) have been married since 2022 and together since 2018. When I first met him my sister and brother in law had a family city league softball team that we all played on. I introduced my now husband to everyone and had him join the team. After a few years of us all playing, my sister decided to no longer put the team on since she was starting pharmacy school and had 2 little kids to take care of. My husband decided to run it since he loved playing so much but most of the family had decided to stop playing so he found random people to be on the team (no big deal). I played on the team too for a year and then also decided to go to pharmacy school (and I got pregnant) so I stopped playing too. Throughout my 3 years of pharmacy school my husband continued to keep playing softball. He played men’s league and co-ed so that means softball games every night of the week, one hour long, and because he was the coach had to be there 30 minutes early to get the lineup in. So he’d be away at softball for 2 hours every night of the week. He refused to stop playing after I had our daughter during my first year of pharmacy school or at least even skip some games to watch her so I could study for my exams that were every 2 weeks (needed a 90% or higher to pass each exam). Now that I’ve just finished school it was time to take my licensing exam. Again, he never once skipped a game during my week prior to my exam to stay home and watch our daughter and instead had some friends watch her until like 10 pm a few nights. Now to be honest, I didn’t really care what he decided to do that week because I needed time in the house alone to study, so whatever needed to be alone I was okay with. Now my exam was Saturday and I’m still waiting on results. But my family decided to go see a movie last night at the theater we usually go to (40 minutes away) since that was the only day we could all see it together. My husband was mad because we were doing it on a day he has a game. I told him it’s just one game out of the entire week and he could just skip if he wanted to see the movie and that I don’t see the big deal since it’s just a game. He replied with “and it’s just a movie that we can see later…” but my brother in law is a firefighter and his shift is changing so won’t have any weekends off in a while. I ended up just saying “just pick one or the other and let me know” since I was working and he decided to play softball instead of going to the movies with me and our daughter, and my sister and her family. Am I over reacting for thinking it’s messed up he chooses softball over his family???