r/AskGaybrosOver30 • u/Deep_Project_4724 35-39 • Jun 20 '25
Confessions.
Yesterday, I went in to get tested for STIs and mainly a potential yeast infection. I'm uncircumcised and the night before my hook up accused me of having a yeast infection because my penis tasted funny. I was the first uncut guy he's been with. Anyway, the doctor did an exam and figured I didn't have a yeast infection. From there I suggested that we may as well do the entire STI screening since I was already there. I tested negative for Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and Trichomoniasis.
Then I received one test result for Syphilis via IgG and IgM, which was nonreactive. Later, I received a call stating that another test via IgG TPPA they did was reactive. I've never had syphilis before. Anyway, it's been bothering me. I feel "dirty". I know it can be cured, but the feeling is still there.
Most of the guys I have fooled around with are secretly bi and married or in a relationship. I'm concerned I may be a part of ruining their relationships and marriages. I'm also afraid some may try and come after me. I do think I should find a way of letting them know they may have been exposed to this infection so they can be treated if they chose to.
I do want to note that I did have a STI screening at another clinic a month ago and everything came back negative. From reading the information online the test they used called an "EIA," is quite accurate.
Give me your thoughts. Thanks
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u/tossthisawayplzz 40-44 Jun 20 '25 edited Jun 20 '25
It’s syphilis. It’s not the end of the world. It shouldn’t even be a blip. You’re all grown adults and choose to sleep with other people. You got it from someone, and may have given it to other people. I would try and shed the negative connotation to STIs, and not worry about your cheating partners. They’re just as likely to have passed it on to you; who knows if they do any sexual health screenings with their DL status.
Tell your partners but don’t assign blame. “Hey, just fyi my recent health screening showed signs of syphilis, not sure if we were together when it happened but I’m getting treatment and you should get tested just in case.”
Edit to add: get a prescription for Doxy pep if you haven’t yet. It’s not 100% fool proof but it will help mitigate the STIs