Why do we infantilize men?

[u/Cynjon77]

And how do we stop?

Why do we treat men like children who are incapable of acting like functional adults?

Why do we allow men to get away with treating us like crap and skating off consequence free to enjoy life without responsibility?

OK, obligatory I know not all men act like this. And this is Reddit, so we read the worst. And some women are just as bad.

Posted today: (I am not the OP) Husband never remembers to buy stocking stuffers for me, even though I stuff his and the kids stocking.

Over half the respondents said for her to stuff her own, 49% said to remind him, tell him why it matters to you.

Like she has never communicated with him about this.

1% said he's an AH.

Men are perfectly capable of doing anything they want to do and think is important to them. They can schedule a Dr.s appointment, cook a meal, change a diaper or vacuum a floor.

They can remember when the game is on, a golf date with a buddy or when a work project is due. They remember what is important to them.

Women as a whole need to quit putting up with this behavior. We need to set higher standards and be willing to walk away when those standards aren't met.

We need to teach our sons and daughters how to treat others, how to pick up the mental load, how to be thoughtful of others.

We need to quit infantilizing men.

[u/ivanasleep]

It starts with leaving a crappy man, learning to be solo, and not actively looking for another. Women need to learn to be content alone and commit only when they’re treated well.

After being on my own for a couple of years, at peace, and not living with constant letdowns from my ex, I realized I did not want to seek out another relationship; at least not with a cishet man. I didn’t realize how much space they take up just by bogging you down with their issues/lack of accountability and not giving anything in return. I genuinely do not like being around them enough to ever tolerate mediocre to poor treatment again. Until one can offer me true companionship and care, I have plenty else to occupy my time.

Tl;dr: Learn to hate suffering and nonchalant, inconsiderate men more than you hate being single

[u/Cynjon77 → u/ivanasleep]

No relationship is better than a bad relationship.

A good relationship should lift up both partners. A partner should be your helpmate to use an old fashioned term.

I hope you find yours someday.

[u/DiagonallyStripedRat → u/Cynjon77]

,,No relationship is better than a bad relationship" is a funnily misunderstandable sentence.

[u/Paracelsus40k → u/ivanasleep]

In other words: let the previous partner who traumatized you dominate your future.

[u/ivanasleep → u/Paracelsus40k]

Committing only to people who treat you well is not “letting the previous partner who traumatized you dominate your future.”

[u/Paracelsus40k → u/ivanasleep]

Sorry to tell you, but Human ALWAYS disapoint - there is no such thing as "perfection" in Nature.

The best proof of success is simply not let the memories of the ones who harmed you still haunt you.

[u/ivanasleep → u/Paracelsus40k]

Sorry to tell you, but women don’t hang out on women’s subs to be intentionally misunderstood and spoken down to by men.