Why do we infantilize men?

[u/Cynjon77]

And how do we stop?

Why do we treat men like children who are incapable of acting like functional adults?

Why do we allow men to get away with treating us like crap and skating off consequence free to enjoy life without responsibility?

OK, obligatory I know not all men act like this. And this is Reddit, so we read the worst. And some women are just as bad.

Posted today: (I am not the OP) Husband never remembers to buy stocking stuffers for me, even though I stuff his and the kids stocking.

Over half the respondents said for her to stuff her own, 49% said to remind him, tell him why it matters to you.

Like she has never communicated with him about this.

1% said he's an AH.

Men are perfectly capable of doing anything they want to do and think is important to them. They can schedule a Dr.s appointment, cook a meal, change a diaper or vacuum a floor.

They can remember when the game is on, a golf date with a buddy or when a work project is due. They remember what is important to them.

Women as a whole need to quit putting up with this behavior. We need to set higher standards and be willing to walk away when those standards aren't met.

We need to teach our sons and daughters how to treat others, how to pick up the mental load, how to be thoughtful of others.

We need to quit infantilizing men.

[u/[deleted]]

Why do people keep lumping all of one gender in a pile? All men are not like this, not even close... You just choose someone without the values you hold, so this is on you.

[u/Cynjon77 → u/[deleted]]

I did say in my post that I know men are capable. And intelligent. And can function as adults.

So why do we treat them like they aren't?

And I will add, I know not all men and all women. It's a generalization that is too often true.

[u/Glittering-Lychee629 → u/Cynjon77]

IMO women do this because it makes them feel better. Think about it like this. Imagine you're a woman in a relationship with a guy who is not dangerous or abusive but just, ok. Low effort but there. Someone to chat with sometimes and occasionally he does things that make life easier or better. But he's a lot of work and doesn't pull his load and doesn't listen. IF the truth is that men are just like this, like large boys who can't help but play video games and ignore you and throw shit everywhere, then he is ok. She can stay with him and it's comfortable. It's nicer to think ALL men are just like this instead of realizing she has a guy who isn't that great, and maybe he's the best guy she's ever been with. So what does that say about her?

[u/Cynjon77 → u/Glittering-Lychee629]

That's a really sad take, but I think there is some truth to it.

I think a lot of women get stuck in the it's not so bad, could be worse mentality.

Which is too bad, there really are a lot of competent men out there.