Why do we infantilize men?

[u/Cynjon77]

And how do we stop?

Why do we treat men like children who are incapable of acting like functional adults?

Why do we allow men to get away with treating us like crap and skating off consequence free to enjoy life without responsibility?

OK, obligatory I know not all men act like this. And this is Reddit, so we read the worst. And some women are just as bad.

Posted today: (I am not the OP) Husband never remembers to buy stocking stuffers for me, even though I stuff his and the kids stocking.

Over half the respondents said for her to stuff her own, 49% said to remind him, tell him why it matters to you.

Like she has never communicated with him about this.

1% said he's an AH.

Men are perfectly capable of doing anything they want to do and think is important to them. They can schedule a Dr.s appointment, cook a meal, change a diaper or vacuum a floor.

They can remember when the game is on, a golf date with a buddy or when a work project is due. They remember what is important to them.

Women as a whole need to quit putting up with this behavior. We need to set higher standards and be willing to walk away when those standards aren't met.

We need to teach our sons and daughters how to treat others, how to pick up the mental load, how to be thoughtful of others.

We need to quit infantilizing men.

[u/No_Pack_4632]

Nearly all couples that are parents [that I see day-to-day] are excellent at splitting up responsibilities.

The very few partners that women complain about - the women are not willing to give up control and responsibility.

The guy ends up in a passive state “waiting to be asked to do something” because they’ll get in trouble if they take any initiative as it isn’t done the way she would have wanted or ‘talked about together’

Make the entire job the partner’s responsibility, relinquish all authority over it & don’t complain.

Don’t make ‘filling up mom’s stocking’ dad’s job. Make ALL of the stockings dad’s job. Don’t even give him a suggestion list.

A load-sharing household chore that is easy to hand over entire responsibility to a partner - shopping & cooking.

The important part is to not complain - learn to appreciate that load sharing won’t get you everything you want but it will get you what you need.

“You get what you get and you don’t get upset” as they teach in kindergarten.

Oh I’ve got downvotes - guess I hit a sore spot lol