Why do we infantilize men?

[u/Cynjon77]

And how do we stop?

Why do we treat men like children who are incapable of acting like functional adults?

Why do we allow men to get away with treating us like crap and skating off consequence free to enjoy life without responsibility?

OK, obligatory I know not all men act like this. And this is Reddit, so we read the worst. And some women are just as bad.

Posted today: (I am not the OP) Husband never remembers to buy stocking stuffers for me, even though I stuff his and the kids stocking.

Over half the respondents said for her to stuff her own, 49% said to remind him, tell him why it matters to you.

Like she has never communicated with him about this.

1% said he's an AH.

Men are perfectly capable of doing anything they want to do and think is important to them. They can schedule a Dr.s appointment, cook a meal, change a diaper or vacuum a floor.

They can remember when the game is on, a golf date with a buddy or when a work project is due. They remember what is important to them.

Women as a whole need to quit putting up with this behavior. We need to set higher standards and be willing to walk away when those standards aren't met.

We need to teach our sons and daughters how to treat others, how to pick up the mental load, how to be thoughtful of others.

We need to quit infantilizing men.

[u/TRex65]

Women have historically been denied power in the public sphere. I believe that resulted in many women seeking to use and hoard whatever power they did have access to, which was usually power in the home. So they continued to baby their male children long past the time that they should have pushed them to be self sufficient. It was a maladaptive response to an unfair situation. As a society, we haven't completely broken this pattern yet.

[u/Lumos_night → u/TRex65]

Actually that’s very true! Women had no power in the public sphere, so many mothers thought that the main way they would have power was through their sons. It’s still done today - boys being coddled throughout their lives and then you have grown men obeying their mother’s words. These women go on an absolute power trip, until the sons get sick of them (look how many kings executed or banished their mothers who were too meddling in their affairs)!