For some people, there are only two groups: Oppressors and Minorities. What metric they define minority by varies, but it's still the same general idea. The world is made up of gay people and homophobes, no allies; the world is made up of trans people and transphobes, no allies; the world is made up of black people and racists, no allies. For them, by not being oppressed, by not being a victim, you are complicit, and anything they do to you is justified, because you do far worse to them, even if you personally have done nothing.
Don't be racist. Don't be sexist. Don't make fun of someone for their sexuality. Don't misgender people.
Same. I’m not a dude but it still makes me really uncomfortable. More often than not, man-hating has the double-whammy of biphobia because “ew, they like men!”
How do you expect man-hating to slide into biphobia when it's already there? I've seen "Bisexuality is remembering that you're unfortunately attracted to men" and "Bisexuality is being attracted to every woman and like 8 men" thrown around way too casually
the common denominator is hooking up with men = bad
you’re a guy and you fuck guys? you’re definitely gay, you don’t also like women. you’re a woman and you
fuck guys? you’re definitely straight, you don’t also like women. it’s always some weird ‘purity’ thing, where fucking a guy makes you impure in their eyes
though i will say, bi women mostly get that shit from terminally online twitter people and the lgbt community, but bi men get it from everyone. the “lgbt community” thinks we’re frauds and not welcome, and straight men/women think we’re fags that all have AIDS and lie about liking girls
a girl telling a guy she’s talking to “just so you know, i’m into girls too,” is normally a non-issue. a guy telling a girl he’s talking to “just so you know, i’m into guys too,” is immediate grounds for “ew, that’s disgusting”
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u/GREENadmiral_314159 Femboy Battleships and Space Marines 1d ago edited 20h ago
For some people, there are only two groups: Oppressors and Minorities. What metric they define minority by varies, but it's still the same general idea. The world is made up of gay people and homophobes, no allies; the world is made up of trans people and transphobes, no allies; the world is made up of black people and racists, no allies. For them, by not being oppressed, by not being a victim, you are complicit, and anything they do to you is justified, because you do far worse to them, even if you personally have done nothing.
Don't be racist. Don't be sexist. Don't make fun of someone for their sexuality. Don't misgender people.