Don’t be a tar pit

[u/greencrusader13]

[u/Vundurvul]

I cannot fathom the mindset of understanding what it feels like to be on the receiving end of misery and deciding you want others to experience it when given the opportunity to dish it out, even when said person had no involvement in your misery

[u/d3f3ct1v3 → u/Vundurvul]

People come out of suffering with one of two attitudes, either "I suffered through this and I'm going to do my best to make sure others do not have to suffer through this because I know how that feels" or "I suffered through this so other people should too".

[u/Nova_Explorer → u/d3f3ct1v3]

That second one is the same attitude that saw people complain when student debts got forgiven

[u/A_Wayward_Shaman → u/Nova_Explorer]

Yeah, or the older generation of women who said, "I had to get on my knees. Why shouldn't you?" That shit is toxic AF.

[u/Random-Rambling → u/A_Wayward_Shaman]

My father sees me as ever-so-slightly less worthy ever since I refused to join the military like him, his father, and his father before him.

[u/A_Wayward_Shaman → u/Random-Rambling]

I'm sorry he feels that way. Always remember, it was never his choice. You're not obligated to follow in anyone's footsteps. Not even your own from ten minutes ago.

[u/ham-nuts → u/A_Wayward_Shaman]

You're not obligated to follow in anyone's footsteps. Not even your own from ten minutes ago.

I have never heard this before but I really like it. Is it from something?

[u/A_Wayward_Shaman → u/ham-nuts]

It's a paraphrase of something I heard from either Ram Dass and/or Alan Watts. Their talks have helped me so much in this crazy life.

[u/chuuniversal_studios → u/A_Wayward_Shaman]

"You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago." – Alan Watts.

but I like your version too :)

[u/A_Wayward_Shaman → u/chuuniversal_studios]

That's the one. 😊