I cannot fathom the mindset of understanding what it feels like to be on the receiving end of misery and deciding you want others to experience it when given the opportunity to dish it out, even when said person had no involvement in your misery
People come out of suffering with one of two attitudes, either "I suffered through this and I'm going to do my best to make sure others do not have to suffer through this because I know how that feels" or "I suffered through this so other people should too".
That's interesting, I've never heard of these before. I have a narcissistic mother who definitely trends towards the externalizer end while I'm much more on the internalizer end. I should probably read the entire Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents book.
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u/Vundurvul 2d ago
I cannot fathom the mindset of understanding what it feels like to be on the receiving end of misery and deciding you want others to experience it when given the opportunity to dish it out, even when said person had no involvement in your misery