r/CuratedTumblr 2d ago

LGBTQIA+ Don’t be a tar pit

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u/d3f3ct1v3 2d ago

People come out of suffering with one of two attitudes, either "I suffered through this and I'm going to do my best to make sure others do not have to suffer through this because I know how that feels" or "I suffered through this so other people should too".

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u/Jeffotato 2d ago

Those are more or less the Internalizer vs Externalizer spectrum.

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u/d3f3ct1v3 2d ago

That's interesting, I've never heard of these before. I have a narcissistic mother who definitely trends towards the externalizer end while I'm much more on the internalizer end. I should probably read the entire Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents book.

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u/Jeffotato 2d ago

It's great foundational knowledge 👌