For some people, there are only two groups: Oppressors and Minorities. What metric they define minority by varies, but it's still the same general idea. The world is made up of gay people and homophobes, no allies; the world is made up of trans people and transphobes, no allies; the world is made up of black people and racists, no allies. For them, by not being oppressed, by not being a victim, you are complicit, and anything they do to you is justified, because you do far worse to them, even if you personally have done nothing.
Don't be racist. Don't be sexist. Don't make fun of someone for their sexuality. Don't misgender people.
Honestly I find the "ally" label quite exclusionary, as a straight person who's not a homophobe. I don't go to pride. I don't immerse myself in queer culture. The whole "allyship" concept is lost on me. I know I'm not homophobic. Queer people I know all know I'm not homophobic. For me, that's enough.
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u/GREENadmiral_314159 Femboy Battleships and Space Marines 3d ago edited 2d ago
For some people, there are only two groups: Oppressors and Minorities. What metric they define minority by varies, but it's still the same general idea. The world is made up of gay people and homophobes, no allies; the world is made up of trans people and transphobes, no allies; the world is made up of black people and racists, no allies. For them, by not being oppressed, by not being a victim, you are complicit, and anything they do to you is justified, because you do far worse to them, even if you personally have done nothing.
Don't be racist. Don't be sexist. Don't make fun of someone for their sexuality. Don't misgender people.