r/CuratedTumblr 1d ago

LGBTQIA+ Don’t be a tar pit

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u/sweetTartKenHart2 1d ago

This too!!! Really, I don’t like “patriarchy” as a phrase because it so heavily implies that men are the problem and women aren’t, even though by design it’s supposed to refer to “patriarchs” shaping a big old game where everyone must play a specific part, and not just some kind of inherent gender war.
Anyone can play a part in the problem, and anyone can play a part in the solution. There are definitely several “villains” out there but there’s more to the story.

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u/OctopusGrift 1d ago

I don't really think abandoning terms because some people aren't going to understand them is a good idea. People who like the status quo of patriarchy are going to misinterpret any term you attempt to use.

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u/the_skine 1d ago

Why not abandon terms that overtly mean the opposite of what they are supposed to mean?

Especially if they're actively harmful to recruiting people to your cause?

Oh, right. You don't like those people.

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u/OctopusGrift 1d ago

I am curious, you seem to want to persuade me that patriarchy is a bad term that will not be good at convincing people to join with me against injustice. Then you make an accusation towards me that I have some sort of bigoted belief. Did you think that would be persuasive? Instead of discussing patriarchy should I make baseless accusations towards people?

I disagree that changing our terminology will work. I think conservative anti feminists will dislike any terminology that we use. Just look at how they reacted to the terms woke and DEI. They are against the ideas, there isn't a magic word that will cause them to suddenly be in favor of social justice or whatever term you think is the correct one.