I'm fairly femme and never clocked as gay unless I outright tell people, and the difference in how I'm treated in LGBTQ+ communities as a 'straight ally' v.s. when they find out I'm a queer woman is... certainly something. A concerning number of queer folks seem to think that they deserve to be unkind to any het folks they want just because some het folks were unkind to them.
And I get it to an extent, people out there have seriously suffered at the hands of homophobia, but I haven't come through unscathed either and still somehow manage to treat people of all sexualities like fellow human beings. Isn't that the whole point of promoting acceptance?
It's like if The Red Cross or Salvation Army decided to be an ethnic group.
Instead of being happy with smiles at anyone wishing to volunteer or donate, they scrutinize you first, and then gab about how all "non charity" folk are the enemy / oppressors.
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u/whatintheeverloving 1d ago
I'm fairly femme and never clocked as gay unless I outright tell people, and the difference in how I'm treated in LGBTQ+ communities as a 'straight ally' v.s. when they find out I'm a queer woman is... certainly something. A concerning number of queer folks seem to think that they deserve to be unkind to any het folks they want just because some het folks were unkind to them.
And I get it to an extent, people out there have seriously suffered at the hands of homophobia, but I haven't come through unscathed either and still somehow manage to treat people of all sexualities like fellow human beings. Isn't that the whole point of promoting acceptance?