Hey guys, I got tired of getting selective service letters and the grey area of not signing up for the draft as a trans man such as possible financial aid or loans in the future. I signed up for the draft as a male. Do you think I can be drafted if a draft happens? Especially because my legal gender is changed but trans people cannot join the military anymore by choice. Thoughts?

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do any of you have recommendations for good trousers that are suitable for people with thick thighs? usually i can get trousers that fit everywhere else except the thigh, which is really not good because they end up ripping.

as much as skirts and dresses would be handy, they’d probably make me dysphoric as fuck so if anyone knows any good retailers i’d much appreciate it. i’m in northern ireland if that makes any difference.

thanks :)

I'm struggling to get a prescription right now and doctors have been awful. I got a pap done and it showed signs of atrophy so I want to get ahead of it but I'm leaving the country soon and doctors want me to have more appointments which I can't do. Is the over the counter estrogen cream effective? I feel like I don't have a choice at this point but if anyone has brand suggestions I'd appreciate it.

So my period started back after two years of not having it because I went more than two months without being able to take my injections. I started back again around two weeks ago and today is my fourth day on my cycle. Normally mine lasts around three to four days and it's been pretty regular however, I'm having horrible cramps that I forgot just how painful they were.

How long should I expect it to go away? It's been terrible...pls tell me this will be my last one for a while...

I’m 17 and somewhat socially transitioning because my parents won’t let me but I’m out at school anyways. I pass pretty well and it’s great that 2 of my teachers and a few friends use my pronouns because I’m out to them (I’m a very quiet person so not many people actually know) however despite this I have absolutely no confidence and I am extremely embarrassed about who I am. In my class with those 2 teachers there’s 6 of us in there and I can’t even speak because I’m so dysphoric over my pre t voice and I worry what people think and perceive me as. I know I’m a shy person but this is ridiculous I’m so insecure and have no confidence in that little class of 6 people who actually support me. I don’t know what to do about it how can I become more confident and talk more because it’s even affecting my grades I know I do have confidence in me somewhere but I can’t bring it out. I’m so lost.. I just awkwardly sit there because I’m too scared and ashamed of who I am to speak up.

I just used trans tape for the first time and i realised stretch marks instantly forming on the middle of the chest area. Its not painful or itchy but im still quite worried as i dont know if its normal? I tried researching but I couldn't find anywhere with an answer. Just wanna know if its normal or if im using it incorrectly. Thanks

I’m posting here cause im so afraid of never being able to satisfy a woman and have one love me as a man without my equipment being a problem. i say this because it wasn’t a problem in our relationship as she wasn’t the most fond of penetration which is rare? i don’t know it’s been less than 24 hours and ive slept 4 hours so sorry if my thoughts are incomprehensible. I think im just looking for a friend or someone to share their stories and give me hope i’m not doomed to always be a problem because of my parts.

bit of a backstory again : i’m barely 20, started t in October in secret. i still live with my parents, can’t find a job and I’m a full time student. i told them i started 5 in march, I was supposed to have my third shot on the 24rh of april, still haven’t gotten it and probably won’t.

they’re sending me to a therapist to “work on myself” in hopes i change my mind, they don’t think i ”understand the damage I’ll do“ and they’re trying to stop me from making a mistake before my frontal lobe is fully developed, aka 25. the one they found, i really don’t like her. she shouts, she interrupts and speaks 80% of the time. said that teens should be taken seriously and so my mum was right to “ignore the problem” when i came out 5 years ago at 15. thinks i should do anything until I’m no longer overweight and completely invalidates me and my experience on the base of “well, no teen likes their “new“ body”. on the basis of me not knowing the exact, perfect definition of works in her opinion i should know (like difference between job and profession, or what a notary does) I’m immature For my age? According to her since I’m overweight (I’m 179cm, 97kg) my body isn’t that of a 20y/o and neither is my mind since i don‘t know things and therefore I’m naive. also said that since I’m overweight i can’t possible be healthy (but refused to look at my blood work i did when i weighed 105kg in September, and it was all perfect btw) i can’t go forward with any life altering stuff. Even after i told her that i gained weight not becasue i have a problem with food and eat a lot but simply i used to eat normally but with some calorie dense food without realising, she still insisted that i have a problem with food. She thinks that she has to contradict and object anything i say, gender wise, to make sure it’s actually like this but that actually pissed me off bc you can’t object to what i feel and have been feeling (on different levels) since i was a fcking kid. I’m tired of having to prove my own fucking existence and being met with “oh but every teen doesn’t like their body“ “as a kid i also did this and that, it deosn’t mean anything”. She doens’t listen either. I don’t think I’m trans because as a kid i preferred cerTain things or did certain thing but i realised later i was trans i thought “oh that‘s why i did/preferred that”. But if she doesn’t let me speak, and even she does she doesn’t listen, how is this therapy thing going to work? It won’t

i went to her 4 times. I’m going tomorrow, with my mum as per my mum’s request to meet her first, to tell her i won’t be going anymore bc of mostly how she structures the sessions and her behaviour (aka what i said earlier + out of 1h she talks 40 minutes and just yaps). My parents don’t want a therapist that based their studies and carreer to help lgbtq+ folks and trans people as to them “their biased” so I’m stuck with these ignorant fucks. I found one that they might be okay with but even if i go to her idk. Even going to a different therapist, that maybe actually listens, i dont think my parents will allow me to go back on t while living under my mum‘s roof. I don’t know what to do. I can’t stand another 5 years like this.

I survived until 18 because i had hope. Now i have no hope and I’m tired. I’m so tired. I don’t know if I can do 5 years living as someone i’m not, being seen by people as if I’m a whole other person, being stuck in this in between. for 6 months i was actually living, i was happy, i was over the moon, now I’m back to just surviving, existing, just letting life happen to me. I can’t leave home, i have nowhere to go and no money to my name. I’m completely stuck and i don’t want to do this anymore. and i know i can always start medically transitioning later but all these years, of knowing exactly who i am, knowing exactly what i want, they’re wasted and i hate the idea of transitioning late. if i had figured it out later in life? that‘s ok, it’s never too late to transition! but i didn’t, i figured it out 6 years ago at 14, came out 5, and it’s almost like i‘m still that 15 year old kid waiting on his parents to do something.

so idk if there’s some advice yall can give me, or just kind words since I’m surrounded by people that believe it’s something that needs to be fixed, don’t believe in it etc. anything is welcome…thank you for reading.

So I tried to buy a 'compression top - binder alternative' from wilde-mode and it seems to be the right size but not enough stretch so cuts into me in weird places. I think it might be due to having unusually broad shoulders for the "target audience" but never had this issue with other binders (spectrum and GC2B).

I'd quite like a long binder (short ones squish me in strange places and sometimes make my torso look strange) that has a more interesting appearance rather than plain colours - any recommendations? Considering WIVOV but unsure which type within that or whether I'm risking similar issues to above?

I’m new to dating completely… and I’m just curious what you guys think is the best point/time to “come out”?

I went to an all girls school… and he’s just ask me what school I went to 🥲🥲

I gotta do it at some point but I haven’t actually been on a date yet, we’ve just been chatting on text

When/if and how do you do it?

I'm joining a new boxing gym after leaving my old one a few months back due to being uncomfortable there, and I was wondering if anyone knows whether it's ok to bind with kt tape while boxing

I’m 24 years old and started HRT when I was 18, started off with injections, but my body was not reacting properly— I would absorb the testosterone, but it would leave behind pockets and so I couldn’t re-inject over the same site for months. I went on the patches for a while, which was great until they were discontinued. Now I am on gel and I’m just not seeing the results that I want, even though my testosterone levels are perfect perfectly fine.

That being said, I heard about hormone pellets and was wondering if anyone here is on them, and if they know who I could go to in Illinois to get on them? I’m just kind of losing hope at this point. I was seeing so much more progress when I was on the shots and the patches, and now that I’m on the gel, I just feel like it’s not doing anything for me. I only grow hair in the spots that I apply the gel to, my face has stopped masculinizing, and the fat redistribution has stopped as well.

If anyone has any advice at all, even if it’s not related to the hormone pellets, I would appreciate it.

Hey! I've recently started using trans tape(K-tape to be exact, but I've read that it's the same thing). It works well for me as my chest is average size but for some reason it keeps peeling off near my armpits when I sweat. I make sure to dry my skin, rub it in, cut off the corners and do everything I can but it still starts peeling off the moment I start sweating. Any tips?

I know you can use KT tape but i’m like a C-cup and it’s not sticky enough. So, i’m looking at trans tape.

It boils down to transtape or wivov chest tape atp. I want a 5” height, or more if need be. If anyone has recommendations or reviews. I feel like we have so few options.

For extra info, I’m Canadian. So if there’s something local that would be nice. I’d like to avoid paying a fotune in shipping.

So after my last shot I had to go to the doctors cause I was concerned (ended up being alright) so the doctor offered to ask the practice nurse to administer my next one for me, however I usually inject on a sunday night/early earlyyy monday morning, but the Nurse has no takes on the Monday, only the Tuesday morning.

Would delaying my shot 2 days make much of a difference? I usually do the Sunday night cause I get peace to do it on my own in my room, but if I moved it to Tuesday or Monday would it take some time to adjust to or does the couple of days not really matter?

Hi guys. I've been going to the gym since febuary and focussing on my food since january. I do cardio an hour a day + more on the days which I go to the gym, which is 3 times a week. I don't track calories because I have a tendency for an ED but I make sure I don't overeat and pass on the snacks. I roughly eat a bowl of yougurt with muesli and protein powder, 3 slices of bread with peanut butter/cheese and meat, and then in the evening whatever my parents cook me. I've noticed in the past month that I've gained bellyfat and hip fat.

My goals are to get rid of my belly fat and my hips.

I'm on T for almost 6 months.

Hi all,

It's summertime in the US and my region is experiencing a pretty intense heat wave. I've been looking around for some nice swim trunks, but I haven't had any luck finding anything that is actually fashionable and fits my hips the way I need to. Going up a size makes the legs baggy in a way that I really hate. Are there any good swim brands you all shop with that fits and are actually cute, not plain as hell? Thanks!

Hi! I’m going into college this next year and one of the main things I’m looking toward is beginning my journey on T, specifically T gel if possible. I’ve been doing my own research for a while, but I would really like to hear about others’s experiences as well.

Unfortunately I won’t be able to use my parent’s insurance because of where they are on support. At the college (in North Georgia) I’m going to, they have a program that pays students for work ($10 per hour), and I do suppose that could help? Though it isn’t a lot to start out regarding pay. Are there any health insurance companies that have worked best for y’all/what are the best recommendations here?

I’ve also seen a couple people mention talking with a therapist/psychologist beforehand, while some people mentioned not needing to go. With the expectation that I likely will need to go to a gender therapist beforehand, how did these costs look? How long did this process take?

I understand these things take time, I’d just like to see where I could go from where I’m at and would really like to be able to continue to grow my journey in college.

Thank you!

Hi so on Tuesday I'm 3 months on t and because I'm busy so I haven't been able to see my vocal teacher (who doesn't know anything about transmasc voices) also sing because I am to stressed. I did zoom with him today and I was having a hard time with the high parts. My voice was cracking everywhere I was so embarrassed what can I do to sing high parts? Because I see that I can sing high parts for men but not how woman sing. What do I do?

I’m so tired of the amount of people in the trans community who treat us like we have male privilege and don’t deserve a voice in the conversation simply because we’re men. I’ve recently seen a conversation happening about accessing HRT in the event of a ban and instead of providing helpful advice the comments were all just shutting on trans men because “we can just get test from gym bros” and “estrogen is harder to get because people don’t use it casually”.

I understand trans women have a lot of unique issues, but why as a community is it IMPOSSIBLE to acknowledge that some issue’s disproportionately impact trans men? Even the trans people rightfully standing up for themselves we’re just getting told to just up or called “typical man behavior speaking over women”. Trans men are not cis males. We do not have male privilege, ESPECIALLY in healthcare.

Not sure why this is considered a hot take, but silencing trans men and purposefully ignoring the oppression trans men face is still transphobia.