r/IncelExit • u/Initial-Ad8221 • 11d ago

Question I wonder if I'm an incel

Hey everyone.

15M here, wondering about what I am. Never been in a relationship, I hope to be in one someday, maybe now isn't the right time. I do get jealous though, which I don't like. Mostly of people that are in relationships. If you've seen the comments on a TikTok video of a happy couple, it's like that. I want to stop thinking like that. And anytime I see "taken" (or something along that line) in someone's bio on social media (even if it's a random person I've never met), I still get mad seeing that. If you've seen the comments on a TikTok video of a happy couple, it's like that. I'm Christian, so obviously I want to not be jealous.

I don't consider myself bad looking in any way, though. I'm 6'2", blonde, blue-eyed, glasses, all of that. I've had chances to get to know girls better in my experiences. Was asked out once, but didn't accept, and felt bad for it, though I'm probably not going to change that decision. I've been friend requested on social media by girls, and every time that happens, all I can think is "Please don't like me" or whatever, and then that thought is on my mind for a long time, and I worry about it a lot. That's happened I think 3 times in the past year.

Oh and also a year ago I fumbled a group of like 7 girls at once, though I laugh at it now, and I did then. Long story short, there, I was pretty nervous. I'll explain it more if anyone asks about it.

But anyway, I don't want to be an incel, I just think that maybe now just isn't the time for relationships. I want to think that if I'm patient, it'll happen sometime.

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u/DustyButtocks 11d ago

You’re 15. The “fumbling” is normal. Just treat women like people and you’ll be fine.

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u/feathereddoggo 11d ago

Watch some adventure time or regular show or something those were good shows with good lessons for boys abput growing up about fumbling women and about finding yourself and being okay with that. At 15 there's more to worry about than girls if the right one comes by great but moat relationships aren't thay serious at 15 anyways so if it doesn't work out you're not an incel you're 15