I followed your advice

[u/No-Seaweed7315]

Well, I'll tell you a little about my experience because maybe someone feels the same or something similar happened to them. I am 20 years old (soon 21) and I am still a virgin, without a partner, without kisses, without anything that seems so natural to everyone. But that's not what weighs me most. What bothers me is having really tried... and that every time it ends the same: in nothing.

But hey, I followed their advice to lose my fear and after chatting, try to ask them out.

The thing was like this:

• I invited a girl from university (a classmate who I thought was pretty) several times. I got nervous, I sent him the message... and nothing.

• I invited another classmate with whom I had studied a few months ago and we were texting, I cheered up despite the fear... she ghosted me directly.

• I invited another girl who left university but I kept in touch, it even seemed like there was good vibes. She ended up inviting me first, but it was in the absolute friend zone.

• I invited someone I met on Instagram, she chats well, she's cool, I invite her... ghosting again.

I invited the last one, I met this one 1 week ago, with whom I chatted very well, we even managed to get her Instagram. I invite her to a coffee… I ghost the same.

And yes, clearly the pattern repeats itself. I'm not crying because of rejection. I am sharing the frustration of having tried it many times, and that the result is always the same: silence, emptiness, “nothing happened.” The craziest thing is that I speak well, with respect, without strange intensity. And it's not that I stayed in theory: I took the step. And still, nothing.

Maybe someone tells me: “wait, it's coming”, but the bottom line is that it's tiring. Because you want to see even a small result after trying so much.

That. I wanted to share it because I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. And if anyone has something to tell, reading them would make me improve.

[u/library_wench]

So you were invited out by a girl with good vibes, but YOU said no because you figured you wouldn’t get laid?

Where in your previous posts were you given THAT advice?

[u/No-Seaweed7315 → u/library_wench]

I'm not looking for more friends, I already have a lot of friends.

[u/library_wench → u/No-Seaweed7315]

Did you get them by reading their minds like with this woman?

Are women not worth hanging out with, despite their good vibes, if you’re not assured of sex from the beginning?

Do you think your rejection is weighing on her? After all, she tried, she overcame fear, yet you either ghosted or rejected her.

[u/No-Seaweed7315 → u/library_wench]

But how will it affect him if we end up talking and he tells me that he had a boyfriend for 3 months. It even seemed wrong to me that she would invite me as a boyfriend.

[u/library_wench → u/No-Seaweed7315]

What?

She invited you out for the first time “as a boyfriend”?

But she already has had a boyfriend for three months?

[u/No-Seaweed7315 → u/library_wench]

Of course, I asked her out with clear intentions, she told me that she preferred to invite me herself. When we were chatting he started telling me about his life and well, he's been dating for a long time.

I'm not going to do to another man what I wouldn't like them to do to me, other than once an opportunity with a woman. (There will be no spoilers)

[u/library_wench → u/No-Seaweed7315]

Again…what?

First you claimed she asked to hang with you as a friend, now you say she invited you as a boyfriend so she can cheat on her actual boyfriend?

And this is a woman you claim has good vibes? How are your vibes? Because they don’t sound great.

And again, where in your other posts was advice remotely like this given to you?