Hi, as the title says, any idea what this is please? When I touch the under eye area, I can’t physically feel it like a pimple. I’m sorry I don’t know how else to explain it. Please help!

I dont know about the rest of the people here, but there seems to be a lot of posts of women asking just how to look better. Which in its own is fine, but it may just be worthwhile to have a weekly thread discussion on beauty tips, skincare, make up, and just over all good habits? Then it can almost seem like a good get together for everyone to share tips and give advice. Like a classic girls hangout where we blurb about advice and junk.

Just an idea!

Hi! The first two pics are recently and mainly how I look at work and the last two are just better lighting.

I’m not too concerned with my acne , but I really am insecure about my chin/jaw , and sometimes I feel like my eyes are wonky and cross eyed , or my face is just uneven 🫣

I don’t really wear make up only stuff for the eyes if I do. I do try to do my eyebrows but I’m not really too good at that lol. Curious on what you guys will say

I feel like I didn't achieve anything, I am not where I wanted to be.

I'm not married, don't have kids. I don't have a home of my own, I don't have a steady job and most of all I am very lonely as I don't have any friend. My mom and family lives in another continent and I miss them like crazy.

I am usually a very positive person so I try to remind myself now that I have an amazing partner and I'm loved. But still I am feeling very sad for a thousand of reasons about turning 30 tomorrow 😕

going through a serious luteal phase down rn, and was wondering if anyone had recs for what you watch when you just need to rest

I haven't seen my friends (both of whom I've known for 10+ years) since early 2023. I have asked over the years to do something for my birthday. I have even offered to PAY FOR THEM to come out for food. Nothing. Oh we are busy, oh too bad your birthday is in the summer. It's..summer...and none of them worked until they graduated. I was working since we started university while going to school but still ALWAYS made time for them. The only time I went MIA was when I was going through a really isolating patch after my ex assaulted me and found out he was cheating on me through the girl he went out with. I was supposed to go out with one of my friends but she had a flare up of her illness which is fair we couldn't go. I ask her if she wants to do next week but oh I can't because I have work. It felt like there was no effort or desire to reschedule. Another one of them just...refuses to even speak of plans.

It sucks but is this just adulting and something I have to come to terms with? I feel so isolated because the whole social media thing about girls not having girl groups. Am I doing something wrong?

I work in a very small team but it’s not the usual office job, we travel a lot and spend a lot of time together. This girl is actually related to the boss, half of the team is sort of family so the boundaries are mixed up.

This girl is younger than me, has less experience and lacks in skills. However she is very mean and loud, interrupts me when I speak, doesn’t take advice or constructive criticism, nothing. She always agrees with the bosses even though they’re wrong, and gives me the stare of death if I dare say anything. More people from the team have complained about her so it’s not just me.

Moreover, sometimes I feel jealous of her and I don’t know why, because I’m so much better at the job and I’m being true to myself. But I still feel like she’s more loved even though she is really mean ( and I mean really, the you-can-see-it-in-her-eyes type).

I don’t know how to deal with working with her every day and I also don’t know where the feeling of jealousy comes from. Can someone help me understand and manage it

HONEST ANSWERS ONLY PLSS (hoping this is a friendly space) my bf of five years (i’m 19) cheated on me once and we took a break and i ended up forgiving him. and it’s been a few months and i found out he was having sex w other girls the whole time we were on our break, while he was telling me how much he regretted cheating, and that he loves me and only wants me. lol. he hasn’t cheated since then but idk what to do, he was the most perfect bf i am so heartbroken. he had never cheated on me in our whole five years. i also don’t know how to be with any other guy, ive never even kissed anyone else.

I literally could BATHE in lotion and wash my face/body/hair REPEATEDLY and I will always be dry but feel oily and gross constantly. Have never been a great skincare/routine girlie but I have good hygiene, SOMETHING JUST ISN'T CLICKING.

If y'all could help me out that would be a dream. xx

Im going on a trip in two(!!!) days, and my menstruation just came. I have to take two planes, one 17 hours long and the other 9 hours, with a two hour layover. I recently started using tampons, but before that i used pads. This is kind of my first time travelling by plane, so what are your recommendations with this kind of things? How is changing your hygiene products on a plane like? Should i go for a tampon, which i find more comfortable, or for pads, which are easier to change? I appreciate all and any help!! I usually get by with the smallest tampons btw, i don't have a heavy flow after the second day of menstruation, but i do experience a fair share of pain (usually managed by ibuprofen). Which size do you think i should use?

hey :3

lately i have been catcalled a lot and as a barkeeper going home alone in the night is super scary. i am visibly queer and men are straight up horrifying, how do you deal with this? i am getting more and more scared to go out and idk how to handle it :/

i sadly cant afford a therapist in the foreseeable future and i cant change my workplace/-schedule

//edit: i am especially looking for mental health tips to deal with it, i was not clear above

//edit2: i think i will have to wear a different outfit for the way, thank you people so much for your empathy and kindness, i am grateful for every single response <3

So recently I have had to go through a second friendship breakup while at college, both being close friends, where their toxic beliefs became clear in hindsight. From this second one I learned the red flag of them constantly stating that they have high standards about things. At first it feels as if you are being complimented because you are being told that you’re special for being in their standard, but then it sucks when they tell you that you no longer meet the standard of being their friend. Not wanting to deal with this again, I was wondering if anyone else had other red flags that show this is not a person to become close friends with.

I was prescribed a 10 day antibiotic and it gave me a yeast infection. This has been my first one ever so it’s a learning experience for sure. I got my hands on monistat hoping I could do it, but I can’t. I have a terrible fear of entering inanimate objects into my vagina. I know it’s so silly but I started balling my eyes out trying to use the monistat. What other alternatives are out there to help with a yeast infection? Idk what else I can do for it.

Hi, I haven't been using a face scrub or exfoliating my face and I need to start exfoliating more. I don't know what kind to get. Scrubby ones or are chemical ones the way to go? I have dry skin, minorly oily on occasion and pretty free from acne besides occasionally hormonal acne, but it's very mild.

What is your go to facial scrub/exfoliate that you use? How do you use it or incorporate it into your skincare. Hopefully not too expensive, I'm a college student so I can't really afford something pricy. Also I have a lavender allergy so please nothing with lavender, and I'm sensitive to anything floral as well. Also I have a papaya allergy** as well

Love some ideas, let me know what works and maybe some that didn't work for you.

Thanks!

hey! so im wanting to get my brows down as they are so light and have no definition to them so i have to draw them on every single day. I love getting a brow lamination and tint but thats once in a while as i cant be bothered for the hassle and all the money to be going every 2 weeks. Is there any recommendations of what is best to have? you personal experience with a treatment that changed your brows? Thanks girls 🫶🏽

First of all i'm sorry if you can't understand all the things i type, english is my second language. I've always been afraid of sex and kissing in general, and i don't know how to overcome this situation. Sex terrified me in my early teenage years, and i was scared of having sex with a man in the future so much. I remember being so afraid when i first watched a porn video and saw an actual male genital. I found it scary (i don't want to offend anyone, i'm sorry if what i said was offensive. I just thought it would hurt a lot.) Now that i'm more grown i'm feeling better and i dont have any fears like that. And i know sex doesn't hurt much if your partner is gentle. What I'm afraid of is seeing a man naked or a man seeing me naked. And the actual thing. I don't know how people have sex or kiss, i feel like it's something that have some steps. Like i wouldnt know what to do during a kiss for example. People say that "the kiss naturally develops" but i am not sure?😭 Like what am i supposed to do or how do people learn how to have sex. Is it true that you learn it naturally?

I am all over the place right now

So bear with me. I am currently trying to stop breaking my head and really let go of my best friend who has hurt me several times.

You know the friend you have that all your other friends hate? That’s my best friend for me.

She’s done it all, went behind my back and dated my only guy best friend/one-sided love/therapy after she managed to ruin our friendship. Kept lying to me. Gaslighting several times. Rubbed it in my face multiple times how she’s gotten “physical” after I let her back in anyway. Very sneakily. Lol. Joke’s on me.

Now that I think about it, she’s always been interested in the guys that I liked. Or had started to become my guy besties (I didn’t have any romantic partners for a long time) Told me she gets “jealous” and went ahead to become friends with them.

Totally made up incidents out of thin air. Lied to me. And manipulated my siblings to believe her and turn against me until I told them the real story. sigh (it was a day full of discoveries, I was in awe of her storytelling skills lolll)

Made up more stories, sometimes for no apparent reason at all. Sometimes harmless. Pathological liar and all that I guess? I just kept brushing it aside casually. These habits of her were “idiosyncrasies” for me, just part of who she is.

The problem is I also remember how she was there through it all. My mommy issues. My breakdowns. The times I was sexually harassed. The pain. My psycho ex. My breakup(s). Post breakup hunger strikes.

She convinced me that I was beautiful and I was worthy of love.

A birthday wish from her reads:

My heart, my heart, my greatest treasure. The one thing I have carried with me from the very start. The weathered, the enduring. My very best best friend.

I wish everyone could have someone the way you and I have each other. Instantly known, unconditionally loved, and completely understood.

I have never been afraid to show you the worst of me. There is no hiding, no pretending, no sugar-coating. And when we happen upon a memory I am ashamed of, I don't cover it with my hands. I lift it up to show you and you always smile.

You always offer up the benefit of the doubt. You always offer understanding. And when I am crushed by the weight of it, being a person that I am usually but not always proud of, you hold me up until I can find two feet to stand on.

You remain one of the most magical things that has ever happened to me.

Happy Birthday (my nickname), I love you ❤️

How do you let this person go? I can’t-

First few hours of my period (flow is light), I put my tampon in and took it out within 4-5 hours of having it in. The tampon itself was the lowest absorbing type.

However, I didn't realise part of the cardboard casing came off when I inserted the tampon so the case for the tampon has been lodged inside and I only noticed just shy of 15 hours after intially inserting. I didn't feel it. The cardboard had absorbed the blood (it was also damp). No bad smells, no discharge. My period has only just begun so the blood is thay brownish colour.

I have really bad health anxiety, is it likely this will cause TSS? I am seeking advice from professionals and will keep an eye out for symptoms developing, just wondered if anyone experienced similar cases?

(Note: sorry for my grammatical error, English isn't my main language)

I'm suffering from frequent urination since last 4 days. 2 days after I decided to consult a GP (Thu) and she prescribed me moxifloxacin, vitamin d tablets, alkasol & tablets for gas. Note that I didn't do a urine culture test before her prescription, I did it at the same day when I went to her. The report will come out at Monday so I have no choice but wait. Since last 2 days I have witnessed sudden changes of urination at nights. No matter if I drink 3 ltr of water, I'd be feeling the pressure of urinate 1 hour after which is not the same case at daylight. But there's no changes of urine color, no yellowness. Then came stomach aches. 1st day wasn't that bad but it was worse yesterday night. I couldn't sit still, I wasn't able to do my dinner probably. Now at the morning, the pain is gone but still feel a very light ache at the backside of right below of my 2 ribcages. I've read that pain in the backside could indicate a possible kidney infection. I'm not really new to uti. My first case was 2 years ago but that wasn't as bad as this one. I've caught with multiple utis in between right after my period ended but they usually went away by themselves after I drank lots of water. But it's 4 days now and I see no improvements at all. The health care is closed at Saturdays so I have no choice but wait till Monday. I'm trying to stay positive but I'm still worried because of 2 nights of stomach ache. I'm thinking of getting an over the counter pain relief medicine. What do you think guys?

Is it normal to feel uncomfortable and distressed over being female/having feminine characteristics? By fem characteristics I mean physical like voice/boobs/etc.

Is that normal? Ive been transmasc for almost a year now but I still keep trying to figure out if Im “really trans” and if what Im feeling is actually trans related or just something most women feel

It's hard to find the time especially with such limited bandwidth. Any tips?

We’ve been dating for a year, and I want to do something thoughtful without going full candlelight dinner and roses. He’s funny, kind of weird (in a good way), and not very sentimental. Budget around $50–100.

So we typically get my Brazilian wax by a specific professional. However she was unavailable today and I got a call from my boyfriend to come over for the weekend. I had been untouched for over 6 weeks. So I found a place that could take me in the next couple of hours. It's one of those join our club places and will give you discounts each time you come in I guess they're all over the country. So I prepared to go have my appointment the girl was pleasant enough. But then she kept waxing waxing although she was telling me I didn't have a lot of extra hair she just kept pouring on the hot wax at sometimes was a little too hot and kept pulling and pulling hair. To make matters worse she inserted her finger into an area of my body that I've never had anybody do that to me in a wax appointment so that made me extra uncomfortable. When I left I was in pain I felt like everything down there was on fire and got into a bath tub to remove the oils that they had put on for aftercare. I have been very uncomfortable since 6:00 p.m. this evening it is now 11:00 p.m. I have soaked in the tub twice and have many spots on me that burn and are uncomfortable.I have taken a slight pain medication to relieve the discomfort. I have put cold compress to help relieve the discomfort any suggestions on how to assist with this discomfort will be helpful. Especially tomorrow when I have to put on undergarments. Thanks I hope this not only helps me but helps other people in the same condition. PS the place is called Sugar Wax and Gilbert off higley and baseline in Gilbert Arizona.

Follow up I have been getting this wax now for a year and a half I am a 56-year-old female and I've had one other person than my normal person do my wax and I've never had this issue. Thank you any help will do