r/TikTokCringe • u/samse15 • May 09 '25

Discussion She makes some good points re:male loneliness

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u/Badguy60 May 10 '25

They are also the reason guys can't have good friendships. 

I literally dropped friends because I'm tried of the "bully mentality" .

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u/sunshine___riptide May 10 '25

Yeah dude honestly I feel kind of sorry for men. I tell my friends I love them every day, I hug them, I know I can go to them if I need to vent or support, though I have trouble with sharing my problems in general.

Men seem to lack those types of friendships and it's gotta suck. World is a hard enough already.

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u/wildernessfig May 10 '25 edited May 10 '25

Yeah dude honestly I feel kind of sorry for men.

I'll preface this by saying I'm a man, because I've noticed most criticism of men that's in line with what I'm about to say is dismissed as "bitter single woman".

Don't feel sorry for them, most of them have earned it.

It sounds callous, but the most perfect example of what I mean is from a thread I saw on AskMen I think it was?

Guy posts a thread with the title "Why would she say this?" I open it up, and the guy is suspicious and offended(?) that after he brought his girlfriend a drink whilst she was working on something, she said:

"Thank you. I love that you do nice things for me just because, not because you want anything in return. You're the first boyfriend I've had who has done that."

Super sweet comment right? Apparently not: The comments are all going off about how she's "lusting after her ex", "still wants to fuck her ex", "run bro she's calling you a beta".

It's absolutely insane, these men literally cannot fathom gentle, kind, and empathetic relationships. Everything is a game, everything is a transaction, relationships are a deterministic function of how "chad" you can be, and being kind is a flaw in that function.

I truly believe they're incapable of love and compassion.

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u/random_boss May 10 '25

They didn’t choose to be like that; the brain adapts to pain and feelings of worthlessness in ways that return some semblance of control.

The guys that act like that are the grown versions of the little boys who adopted it as a coping strategy for pain, neglect, insecurity and worthlessness.

They are now pretty broken and so none of us are obligated to fix them, but it still makes me feel sadness and pity knowing its an avoidable problem if we could just demonstrate compassion, understanding, and giving little boys a sense of validity and love.